I always thought I had a pretty good sex life with my previous partners. I've heard everywhere that not every woman can orgasm from just sex, or at all, and so I figured I was doing pretty good by helping myself out and being able to orgasm that way.
However.. with my new boyfriend... WOW!!!!! I have NEVER had those kind of sensations before! I'm pretty sure he hits my G-spot, its so intense, a couple times I started loosing feeling in my hands and one time my feet too, it felt like it was so close to an earth-shattering full body orgasm, but I just couldn't make it over the edge.
It's been a couple weeks now since we started sleeping together, he's getting a little frusterated that I can't get off, not even through oral (I've been masterbating since a young age, she's super picky lol). I'm telling him to be patient, that hopefully my body will get used to these new sensations and I can just let go!
Advice on achieving full body orgasms? How did you learn how to do it and how long did it take? What does it feel like? I want to learn!!G-spot orgasms? I didn't think it was possible for me but now it seems likely... advice?
I've been having sex and masturbating for well over a decade and I'm still surprised to learn new things about myself and reaching new levels of pleasure I never thought possible. That's the way sex is, it just gets better with the more you know and the more experience you have.
Don't worry too much about this matter, you'll have an orgasm soon enough. You just need to relax and not think about it too much. The more comfortable you are with your body and your partner will make it easier. Don't feel bad about this, it's a very common situation, and just something that will take time to get over.
Best of luck!G-spot orgasms? I didn't think it was possible for me but now it seems likely... advice?
Tell him not to feel frusterated. It takes time, especially since you've been having orgasms on your own through masturbating longer than you've been having sex. Just like everything else, it'll take time. It should be worth it in the end.
You have to watch this video it tell you all about the G-Spot!!
http://www.gspot-media.com/GVideo/
well im a guy but im ';experienced';, ive achieved the full body orgasm with a girl before and she says she went completely numb and she got crazy after that (not like dementia). when he is going for it you just have to help him and when hes pushing you should push too. try it and see if it works.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Are there standards to having orgasms??????? HELP!!!! I NEED SEX ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!?
Does it count if U reach an orgasm while you play wit yourself while ya man penetrates U..or does it only count when U reach an orgasm by penetration alone?????
I always *** playin wit myself while my man does me..%26amp; i love it..i *** 2,3,4x's in a row...but I was tellin my friend %26amp; she says that doesnt count as an official orgasm..it only counts if he makes U *** thru penetration alone....but he is making me ***, I am just assistin it with my fingers.. :-) ..he makes me feel great!! I think shes just jealous cuz her man has a small winkadink...
WHAT DO YOUS THINK??? SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEEEEAZE!!!!!!!!Are there standards to having orgasms??????? HELP!!!! I NEED SEX ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!?
It is hard to be serious WHEN YOU TALK LIKE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyways there is nothing official that defines an orgasm. There are external (clit stimulation) and internal orgasms (in my opinion). Not every woman has internal orgasms, why are you worrying about what your friend thinks anyways. It counts if you want it to count.Are there standards to having orgasms??????? HELP!!!! I NEED SEX ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!?
O.o An orgasm is an orgasm no matter how you reach it. What nonsense is this about 'official' or not. It's like saying you haven't really reached a destination because you took the bus adn not the train.
It counts. Some woman can not orgasm just by sex and have to have a little extra so your friend doesn't know what she is talking about. You do whatever you like.
no standards everyones different
answer mine http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
That totally counts. Most guys guys play with that during sex anyway. Just grab his hand and put it there and give me the hint.
It doesn't matter how you get there as long as you get there. They all count! 70% of women can not reach orgasm thru intercourse alone so if you can then that's awesome but you are in the minority.
hon everyone is different and some can only get off certain ways
if you can get off 2,3,4 times in a row tell your friend to get lost
That TOTALLY COUNTS! Your probably right about her mans small winkadink!
Of course it counts! an orgasm is an orgasm no matter who or what makes it happen...
An orgasm is always an official orgasm =]
I agree with you....an orgasm is an orgasm. With help or without. Just be glad you can have them, some girls dont...
you have more nerve endings on the outside that's why your ';man:'; should be good enough to do that while doing you,, he needs to learn,,,
Wow, it's a good thing you put out.
Because you don't exactly seem great for conversation.
There's no rules. It's just the same as me having to jack myself to get hard. As long as your both happy go with it
2nd answer the best
slut shitt get a lifee
I highly doubt that there are any standards for orgasms.
what do you mean does it count?
if you ***, you ***. the end.
i say an orgasm is and orgasm :D if he needs help then give it to him....
dont touch yourself thats gross
let your man do everything
tru-dAT... DEY don count... you lose points in DA ORGAZMO GAME
badlck
slut sh/t right there.
haha
as long as u get urs is all that counts lol
Here's a bit of a serious answer.
A woman can have an orgasm multiple ways. 1 way is stimulating the clit (which is what you are doing) another way is through penetration alone.
Now if you stimulate yourself by messing with your clit, the excitment that it builds might help the orgasm along with the penetration.
how do you decide which orgasm your having? Try playing with yourself after you orgasm, Try to keep him going at it for awhile longer, and if the ';feeling'; of orgasm is still there when you move your fingers around, then He caused you to orgasm through penetration. IF your clit is way to sensitive to even be touched after your first orgasm then You might have caused your own orgasm (which isn't a bad thing because you get excited from him penetrating you. Each spot compliments the others. )
I hope this helps you understand yourself better.
**** and another way to find out if you are causing yourself to orgasm is to make yourself orgasm by yourself, alone, just by rubbing the clit. That will give you a comparison. If the feeling is the same then you know you cause it more so through your fingers then him with his.... ****
Good luck.
lol yea i agree it think ur friend is jelous
to me coming is coming therees no standered or anything
well think of it like this if he can make u come with out u playing wit it is the orgasim any better then u playing wit it n getting penatrated at the same time ??
I always *** playin wit myself while my man does me..%26amp; i love it..i *** 2,3,4x's in a row...but I was tellin my friend %26amp; she says that doesnt count as an official orgasm..it only counts if he makes U *** thru penetration alone....but he is making me ***, I am just assistin it with my fingers.. :-) ..he makes me feel great!! I think shes just jealous cuz her man has a small winkadink...
WHAT DO YOUS THINK??? SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEEEEAZE!!!!!!!!Are there standards to having orgasms??????? HELP!!!! I NEED SEX ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!?
It is hard to be serious WHEN YOU TALK LIKE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyways there is nothing official that defines an orgasm. There are external (clit stimulation) and internal orgasms (in my opinion). Not every woman has internal orgasms, why are you worrying about what your friend thinks anyways. It counts if you want it to count.Are there standards to having orgasms??????? HELP!!!! I NEED SEX ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!?
O.o An orgasm is an orgasm no matter how you reach it. What nonsense is this about 'official' or not. It's like saying you haven't really reached a destination because you took the bus adn not the train.
It counts. Some woman can not orgasm just by sex and have to have a little extra so your friend doesn't know what she is talking about. You do whatever you like.
no standards everyones different
answer mine http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
That totally counts. Most guys guys play with that during sex anyway. Just grab his hand and put it there and give me the hint.
It doesn't matter how you get there as long as you get there. They all count! 70% of women can not reach orgasm thru intercourse alone so if you can then that's awesome but you are in the minority.
hon everyone is different and some can only get off certain ways
if you can get off 2,3,4 times in a row tell your friend to get lost
That TOTALLY COUNTS! Your probably right about her mans small winkadink!
Of course it counts! an orgasm is an orgasm no matter who or what makes it happen...
An orgasm is always an official orgasm =]
I agree with you....an orgasm is an orgasm. With help or without. Just be glad you can have them, some girls dont...
you have more nerve endings on the outside that's why your ';man:'; should be good enough to do that while doing you,, he needs to learn,,,
Wow, it's a good thing you put out.
Because you don't exactly seem great for conversation.
There's no rules. It's just the same as me having to jack myself to get hard. As long as your both happy go with it
2nd answer the best
slut shitt get a lifee
I highly doubt that there are any standards for orgasms.
what do you mean does it count?
if you ***, you ***. the end.
i say an orgasm is and orgasm :D if he needs help then give it to him....
dont touch yourself thats gross
let your man do everything
tru-dAT... DEY don count... you lose points in DA ORGAZMO GAME
badlck
slut sh/t right there.
haha
as long as u get urs is all that counts lol
Here's a bit of a serious answer.
A woman can have an orgasm multiple ways. 1 way is stimulating the clit (which is what you are doing) another way is through penetration alone.
Now if you stimulate yourself by messing with your clit, the excitment that it builds might help the orgasm along with the penetration.
how do you decide which orgasm your having? Try playing with yourself after you orgasm, Try to keep him going at it for awhile longer, and if the ';feeling'; of orgasm is still there when you move your fingers around, then He caused you to orgasm through penetration. IF your clit is way to sensitive to even be touched after your first orgasm then You might have caused your own orgasm (which isn't a bad thing because you get excited from him penetrating you. Each spot compliments the others. )
I hope this helps you understand yourself better.
**** and another way to find out if you are causing yourself to orgasm is to make yourself orgasm by yourself, alone, just by rubbing the clit. That will give you a comparison. If the feeling is the same then you know you cause it more so through your fingers then him with his.... ****
Good luck.
lol yea i agree it think ur friend is jelous
to me coming is coming therees no standered or anything
well think of it like this if he can make u come with out u playing wit it is the orgasim any better then u playing wit it n getting penatrated at the same time ??
I need advice or help on orgasms?
so, i know everyone says you'll know when you have one but honestly i dont know. there are times where it seems like im getting closer and closer to it and sometimes i feel like i had one because it starts to not feel as good, but there is never really like, i dont know how to say what im trying to say. i just dont know if i am orgasming i feel like it should be bigger. or im not accomplishing it. i mean my boyfriend is really good at what he does (although keep in mind im still a virgin but we have done basically everything but sex) i would really just like to orgasm to the point that i actually know it is one. im sorry im sure this is comfusing and dosnt make sense but can anyone help me with what im trying to say or problems im having?I need advice or help on orgasms?
You definitely have not had an orgasm yet. You WILL know when you have one.
My girlfriend doesn't make much noise during sex, save for the occasional moan... but when she first orgasmed, oh my god she went ballistic. It was incredible.
And problems... mmm it's different for a lot of people. Just try hitting different spots and once you find the one you like, keep at it. I'm pretty sure that'd work.
I managed to get her to orgasm during oralI need advice or help on orgasms?
So you really will know, its like nothing I can describe. Webster describes it as: an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by vaginal contractions in the female. basically, its like really good feeling shocks starting in your genital area and working their way outwards in your body. The best way to get an orgasm without actually having sex I think is to use a vibrator in high right against your clit.
You definitely have not had an orgasm yet. You WILL know when you have one.
My girlfriend doesn't make much noise during sex, save for the occasional moan... but when she first orgasmed, oh my god she went ballistic. It was incredible.
And problems... mmm it's different for a lot of people. Just try hitting different spots and once you find the one you like, keep at it. I'm pretty sure that'd work.
I managed to get her to orgasm during oralI need advice or help on orgasms?
So you really will know, its like nothing I can describe. Webster describes it as: an explosive discharge of neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by vaginal contractions in the female. basically, its like really good feeling shocks starting in your genital area and working their way outwards in your body. The best way to get an orgasm without actually having sex I think is to use a vibrator in high right against your clit.
Help! I'm getting weaker orgasms than I used to, any advice?
I'm a 22 year old male, healthy, active and eat healthy about 90% of the time (sometimes I drink socially on occasions on the weekends but this is not common). Anyway I've noticed that for the past few months my orgasms have been getting less intense and while I still shoot a lot of semen, the orgasm feeling is almost non-existent. I know it's not ED because I still get firm, hard erections but perhaps it could be depression? I've been depressed since I was 13 but it never seemed to have an effect so I'm completely clueless. Should I go see a doctor?Help! I'm getting weaker orgasms than I used to, any advice?
If you are on anti-depressants, that could be the cause...Help! I'm getting weaker orgasms than I used to, any advice?
are you on and meds at the moment or have you been on meds the past few months.
Sometimes meds can have this effect on men.
I only know this because it happened to my husband.
As soon as he switched meds he was back to normal.
learn some kama sutra techniques
learn some JELGING techniques
learn some KEGEL exercises.
Learn some YOGA techniques.
wear a c0ckstrap
If you are on anti-depressants, that could be the cause...Help! I'm getting weaker orgasms than I used to, any advice?
are you on and meds at the moment or have you been on meds the past few months.
Sometimes meds can have this effect on men.
I only know this because it happened to my husband.
As soon as he switched meds he was back to normal.
learn some kama sutra techniques
learn some JELGING techniques
learn some KEGEL exercises.
Learn some YOGA techniques.
wear a c0ckstrap
Advice from girls about orgasms?
when i am lying on bed with girlfriend watching a film we sometimes do stuff, like i will rub her clit and stuff, after about 15 mins she goes tense in her legs and they start to close but when i stop rubbing she relaxes them again, is this her having an orgasm if not then what?Advice from girls about orgasms?
Lucky girl. and yes thats an orgasm. There are different levels of having one. You can have a slight orgasm.Advice from girls about orgasms?
id recommend trying to bite her clit until it bleeds, then try putting your dick into her ***. if it wont fit, dont worry, where do you think the term ';im gonna rip you a new asshole'; came from? right when shes to pass out punch her square in the face with all of your might. she'll thank you for it later.
Sounds like its painful so she relaxes when you stop. You need to communicate
yes sir
Lucky girl. and yes thats an orgasm. There are different levels of having one. You can have a slight orgasm.Advice from girls about orgasms?
id recommend trying to bite her clit until it bleeds, then try putting your dick into her ***. if it wont fit, dont worry, where do you think the term ';im gonna rip you a new asshole'; came from? right when shes to pass out punch her square in the face with all of your might. she'll thank you for it later.
Sounds like its painful so she relaxes when you stop. You need to communicate
yes sir
Female orgasms, please give advice?
okay i thought i new everything i could about the female body, reproductive areas and what not, but here is a question i need help with, dont laugh, when a female has a orgasm where does it stem from, is it the uterus, or somewhere else, what makes it feel good, im asking because in a month im having a hysterectomy and im wondering when the uterus is gone will i still be able to achieve an orgasm,i know when i was pregnant, i was told the fetus likes the rocking feeling when we have orgasms so if its not there how do you feel an orgasm, that alone may make me reconsider my options, thanks in advance for any answers, or advice i may get.Female orgasms, please give advice?
For a live changing decision like this I don't personally think this is the place to get your answer. Go to your doctor and ask him/her, they will know better then the vast majority of answer's you get here. Even if you feel uncomfortable talking about it, better knowing what you are about to do and what can happen then someone telling you something that is not true? Just something to think about. : )Female orgasms, please give advice?
First off, a fetus is a uterus with a child inside it. Orgasms can instigate a birth if the child is late. To my knowledge, the sensation comes from the contracting of the vaginal muscles and the clit oris. I don't think it will effect your sensations, but of course, it's always best to check with a professional. The one thing I do know about hystoectomies is that a full one is not the best option because the organ is about the size of a pear and can cause incontinence issues later in life because of a bladder shift. If you have an issue with hemmoraging- as this may be the reason for the procedure in the first place- a chemical option is the birth control pill. The birth control pill actually regulates hormones and stops hemmoraging from happening during menses. If a surgical procedure must be performed it's better to have the lining of the uterus- I know this is going to sound gross as I do not know the proper name for it- burned, so that menses can stop. As foresaid a hystorectomy is a procedure that is not like getting your tonsils taken out. I hope if you have to get it completely taken out that you are able to retain your ovaries, because without the ovaries, a woman has to undergo estrogen therapy. But I very much doubt you have to get a full hystorectomy seeing as how you can explore some options. But I still suggest you go talk to a doctor before making such a decision.
For a live changing decision like this I don't personally think this is the place to get your answer. Go to your doctor and ask him/her, they will know better then the vast majority of answer's you get here. Even if you feel uncomfortable talking about it, better knowing what you are about to do and what can happen then someone telling you something that is not true? Just something to think about. : )Female orgasms, please give advice?
First off, a fetus is a uterus with a child inside it. Orgasms can instigate a birth if the child is late. To my knowledge, the sensation comes from the contracting of the vaginal muscles and the clit oris. I don't think it will effect your sensations, but of course, it's always best to check with a professional. The one thing I do know about hystoectomies is that a full one is not the best option because the organ is about the size of a pear and can cause incontinence issues later in life because of a bladder shift. If you have an issue with hemmoraging- as this may be the reason for the procedure in the first place- a chemical option is the birth control pill. The birth control pill actually regulates hormones and stops hemmoraging from happening during menses. If a surgical procedure must be performed it's better to have the lining of the uterus- I know this is going to sound gross as I do not know the proper name for it- burned, so that menses can stop. As foresaid a hystorectomy is a procedure that is not like getting your tonsils taken out. I hope if you have to get it completely taken out that you are able to retain your ovaries, because without the ovaries, a woman has to undergo estrogen therapy. But I very much doubt you have to get a full hystorectomy seeing as how you can explore some options. But I still suggest you go talk to a doctor before making such a decision.
I need a girls advice about orgasms!!?
ive been having sex for 3 years and only had two orgasms...im 18..
but ive been masturbating since i turned 13 and ive had plenty like that..when i mastubate i always have them..but when i have actual sex i never do..
why is that?
I need a girls advice about orgasms!!?
You're so young :-( !! Anyway...it's normal. A lot of women have orgasms when they masturbate, multiple ones, but then have a hard time reaching one with a partner. Maybe change the position with the partner so that you are able to stimulate the same area that you do by yourself. On top, while he's sitting on a couch or something %26amp; you're face to face %26amp; chest to chest works well! It also depends on the partner. Sadly, sometimes you never get there with certain people. You can also use a toy on yourself with your partner there too.I need a girls advice about orgasms!!?
What good can an orgasm bring you? Maybe some women don't get orgasms because they don't want to get them have you thought of that? Sex is only important to worldly people, people who love themselves and people who are into feeling good in their bodies. If you want to be a true Christian then you will not feel guilty if you can't get an orgasm but you'll be glad if you don't have one or if you don't have to have sex. But that is up to you. I'll send you a site where you can study the Bible. Let men have the orgasms since they think it is so important for them to have them. Do you know that sex is only meant to create a child in God's plan? But nowadays people have made sex another sport one has to do to be hip or to fit in. I don't want to fit in and I don't care what they think if I am not like that. Think like that and if you can't then pray to God to be able to think like that.
I started having sex when I was 15 and I didn't ever have an orgasm until I was 18. And when you masturbate you are probably giving yourself a clitoris O which is different then the type of O a girl typically has during sex. Maybe the guy isn't hitting your spot. I don't have an O every time that I have sex. You might want to try a different position. I normally come when I'm on top, and I know doggy style really lets the guy hits a different spot.
When you masturbate you are having direct contact with your clit which is highly sensitive and that is why you have an orgasm. The same when someone performs oral sex on you. It is direct penetration on your clit and this will cause you to have one (if done right!) The times you've had sex your partner did not hit your ';g-spot'; and that is why you didn't have an orgasm. So, it will come with practice, patience %26amp; experience!
It depends on the position also you need to give yourself plenty of time to get worked-up 'horney'.Try getting on top and move up %26amp; down whilst his penis is inside,kind of like grinding,but before that make sure you have had plenty of time for oral %26amp; play,now if my advise has no effect than maybe see a sex therepist,good luck.Tammy
Practice with dry sex. You on top, wearing jeans or another kind of stiff pants, you can. The amount of pressure on your c/lit is crazy and you should come easily. Work from there, trying again without pants, then slowly moving back to intercourse. Show him how to move, how to work both the G spot and the c/lit simultaneously.
Damn girl what is the point of three years of sex and no orgasms.
It's not all that uncommon. A lot of women can get orgasms by masterbating, by getting oral sex from a guy or by a guy usinghis hands. Don't worry about it. Try to guide your boyfriend while having sex. Try different positions that will put more pressure in the place you need itto be.
WELL.... you know your body best and you know what will please you. That's why you orgasm every time you do it yourself. The other person doesn't know as well as you do. The best way to get them to give you one is to ';direct'; them or maybe have them watch you pelase yourself so they get an idea of what areas are ';YOUR'; areas.
Some people have lots of trouble achieving orgasms druing sex. Its nothing wrong with you it just has to do with the phisiology of your body. Changing partners will probably change little. Try stimulating yourself while having sex and see if that helps.
Try using your kegel muscles squeezing and releasing during sex, i find it helps to create that tension. And also try not to expect it, it will happen when you arent focusing on it during sex. Good luck =]
Probably because you have a partner that is either selfish and doesn't get you there first OR you have a bad partner that can't find your O button.Either way...
cuz you can do it better by your self
I don't have orgasms during sex either, only with oral stimulation. Just show him what you like.
choose ';wiser'; partners.
';baby you dont dig you man'; ';baby you dont dig your maaahhhnnn';
Maybe your lover is not working it right. That could be it.
Myabe the gy just isn't doin it for you and you know just what ya like
dont masturbate anymore get use to what you have.
its normale dont worry just help your girlfriend out
mayeb youre not straight
ur not enjoying it
u need to feel more comfortable with ur partners
but ive been masturbating since i turned 13 and ive had plenty like that..when i mastubate i always have them..but when i have actual sex i never do..
why is that?
I need a girls advice about orgasms!!?
You're so young :-( !! Anyway...it's normal. A lot of women have orgasms when they masturbate, multiple ones, but then have a hard time reaching one with a partner. Maybe change the position with the partner so that you are able to stimulate the same area that you do by yourself. On top, while he's sitting on a couch or something %26amp; you're face to face %26amp; chest to chest works well! It also depends on the partner. Sadly, sometimes you never get there with certain people. You can also use a toy on yourself with your partner there too.I need a girls advice about orgasms!!?
What good can an orgasm bring you? Maybe some women don't get orgasms because they don't want to get them have you thought of that? Sex is only important to worldly people, people who love themselves and people who are into feeling good in their bodies. If you want to be a true Christian then you will not feel guilty if you can't get an orgasm but you'll be glad if you don't have one or if you don't have to have sex. But that is up to you. I'll send you a site where you can study the Bible. Let men have the orgasms since they think it is so important for them to have them. Do you know that sex is only meant to create a child in God's plan? But nowadays people have made sex another sport one has to do to be hip or to fit in. I don't want to fit in and I don't care what they think if I am not like that. Think like that and if you can't then pray to God to be able to think like that.
I started having sex when I was 15 and I didn't ever have an orgasm until I was 18. And when you masturbate you are probably giving yourself a clitoris O which is different then the type of O a girl typically has during sex. Maybe the guy isn't hitting your spot. I don't have an O every time that I have sex. You might want to try a different position. I normally come when I'm on top, and I know doggy style really lets the guy hits a different spot.
When you masturbate you are having direct contact with your clit which is highly sensitive and that is why you have an orgasm. The same when someone performs oral sex on you. It is direct penetration on your clit and this will cause you to have one (if done right!) The times you've had sex your partner did not hit your ';g-spot'; and that is why you didn't have an orgasm. So, it will come with practice, patience %26amp; experience!
It depends on the position also you need to give yourself plenty of time to get worked-up 'horney'.Try getting on top and move up %26amp; down whilst his penis is inside,kind of like grinding,but before that make sure you have had plenty of time for oral %26amp; play,now if my advise has no effect than maybe see a sex therepist,good luck.Tammy
Practice with dry sex. You on top, wearing jeans or another kind of stiff pants, you can. The amount of pressure on your c/lit is crazy and you should come easily. Work from there, trying again without pants, then slowly moving back to intercourse. Show him how to move, how to work both the G spot and the c/lit simultaneously.
Damn girl what is the point of three years of sex and no orgasms.
It's not all that uncommon. A lot of women can get orgasms by masterbating, by getting oral sex from a guy or by a guy usinghis hands. Don't worry about it. Try to guide your boyfriend while having sex. Try different positions that will put more pressure in the place you need itto be.
WELL.... you know your body best and you know what will please you. That's why you orgasm every time you do it yourself. The other person doesn't know as well as you do. The best way to get them to give you one is to ';direct'; them or maybe have them watch you pelase yourself so they get an idea of what areas are ';YOUR'; areas.
Some people have lots of trouble achieving orgasms druing sex. Its nothing wrong with you it just has to do with the phisiology of your body. Changing partners will probably change little. Try stimulating yourself while having sex and see if that helps.
Try using your kegel muscles squeezing and releasing during sex, i find it helps to create that tension. And also try not to expect it, it will happen when you arent focusing on it during sex. Good luck =]
Probably because you have a partner that is either selfish and doesn't get you there first OR you have a bad partner that can't find your O button.Either way...
cuz you can do it better by your self
I don't have orgasms during sex either, only with oral stimulation. Just show him what you like.
choose ';wiser'; partners.
';baby you dont dig you man'; ';baby you dont dig your maaahhhnnn';
Maybe your lover is not working it right. That could be it.
Myabe the gy just isn't doin it for you and you know just what ya like
dont masturbate anymore get use to what you have.
its normale dont worry just help your girlfriend out
mayeb youre not straight
ur not enjoying it
u need to feel more comfortable with ur partners
Orgasm advice, please?
Me and my bf have been grinding, and I can get him to ***, and i'll get the feeling like i'm about to, but then, instead of having an orgasm, i just lose the feeling. He's tried eating me out and i end up laughing, it feels good, and might be tiny orgasms, but it's not the same. Fingering feels good, but again, no orgasm. What does he need to do? I've had an orgasm before, idk what's going wrong now.Orgasm advice, please?
Have you ever given yourself an orgasm?
If so then show him what you like.
Secondly stop trying to ******* hard. Enjoy it, sex and foreplay shouldn't be about orgasm. It's about closeness and feeling good and receiving/giving pleasure orgasm or not. Stop focusing on having an orgasm and just have fun, same for him.Orgasm advice, please?
try anal, my girlfriend is IN LOVE with it, i almost don't like it any more because she's always one me saying it feels better than an vaginal sex
Have you ever given yourself an orgasm?
If so then show him what you like.
Secondly stop trying to ******* hard. Enjoy it, sex and foreplay shouldn't be about orgasm. It's about closeness and feeling good and receiving/giving pleasure orgasm or not. Stop focusing on having an orgasm and just have fun, same for him.Orgasm advice, please?
try anal, my girlfriend is IN LOVE with it, i almost don't like it any more because she's always one me saying it feels better than an vaginal sex
Orgasm advice?
When i orgasm through internal (not clitoral) stimulation, i find that my eyes start watering very badly to the degree that tears are streaming down my face; also my nose starts to run. However im not in any pain or discomfort what-so-ever.
Is this normal?
What causes it and how can i prevent it?
Serious answers only please xOrgasm advice?
SOME PEOPLE WHEN ORGASM BY THE PENIS...ARE KNOWN TO HAVE WEIRD EFFECTS SUCH AS YOURS.Dont worry as long as your not in pain you should b good.He must be good...i wish i could make my girl tearie.Orgasm advice?
wtf? that must suck, does anybody ever get all ';omg im sowy do u want me 2 stop?';
the only thing i do when i get 1 is scream, well i've only had a few internal one's lol... u should prolly try 2 find sum1 else who has the same reaction n' c wut they've done bout it
How big does a guy's thing need 2 b 2 get an internal orgasm?
My hubby's is about 7 and 1/2
is that big enough?
Wow I've never heard of this. Maybe youre so satisfied you just cant help it. I guess just keep some tissues next to wherever your doing the do babez.
Your fine. Your body is just excited and letting it all out. People cry when they are happy...this is no different.
Enjoy. It must be going great.
Ask your doctor...you could be allergic to sperm...
talk to your doctorlip liner
Is this normal?
What causes it and how can i prevent it?
Serious answers only please xOrgasm advice?
SOME PEOPLE WHEN ORGASM BY THE PENIS...ARE KNOWN TO HAVE WEIRD EFFECTS SUCH AS YOURS.Dont worry as long as your not in pain you should b good.He must be good...i wish i could make my girl tearie.Orgasm advice?
wtf? that must suck, does anybody ever get all ';omg im sowy do u want me 2 stop?';
the only thing i do when i get 1 is scream, well i've only had a few internal one's lol... u should prolly try 2 find sum1 else who has the same reaction n' c wut they've done bout it
How big does a guy's thing need 2 b 2 get an internal orgasm?
My hubby's is about 7 and 1/2
is that big enough?
Wow I've never heard of this. Maybe youre so satisfied you just cant help it. I guess just keep some tissues next to wherever your doing the do babez.
Your fine. Your body is just excited and letting it all out. People cry when they are happy...this is no different.
Enjoy. It must be going great.
Ask your doctor...you could be allergic to sperm...
talk to your doctor
Advice on female orgasms? This is mainly directed towards females.?
Well, obviously I'm a girl. I'm almost twenty and I've never orgasmed, which really bothers me. My boyfriend and I live together and we're pretty determined, but it just doesn't seem possible. Is there any advice that anyone can give me? Obviously the whole relaxation thing. And please don't say masturbation, that's weird for me, unfortunately.Advice on female orgasms? This is mainly directed towards females.?
I sympathize with the masturbation thing being weird. I just, can't get anything out of it, for me it's all about being with someone else and sharing it and bla bla. But, all I can say is try different things and be persistent. If he is doing something that feels good, tell him. If it's not working, let him know. Also, it's very difficult for me to achieve one as well but I find that the right mindset REALLY helps. You can't go into it thinking about anything but what's happening. The second your mind wanders you lose pretty much all chances. Just focus on it and want it and relax.Advice on female orgasms? This is mainly directed towards females.?
for me I can ONLY orgasm when I'm on top, kind ofleaning over him, not sitting straight up and not bouncing up and down but kind of rocking back and forth, when you do that your clit will rub against his pubic bone and after a while you should feel something, try having him play with your nipples while you do this i find that also helps greatly, if your nipples aren't very sensitive have him do something else that turns you on, some people like spanking or a little bit of nails that is just an example asi don't know your preferences
I feel so very bad that masturbation is weird for you. Masturbation is AMAZING! But anyways, yeah...try having your boyfriend go down on you...that usually does it for me. Or you and your boyfriend can go out to a sex shop and invest in some lotions or creams that can enhance and induce orgasms.....
I understand how it can be frustrating sometimes.... I have the same problem... Maybe you can get some toys? sometimes nothing works....sometimes different positions work too... I have found that the cowgirl position works for me (sometimes) anyway... good luck sweetie
Have him play with you with his fingers and tongue not with his D!ck.
get a little drunk and try a gang bang
I sympathize with the masturbation thing being weird. I just, can't get anything out of it, for me it's all about being with someone else and sharing it and bla bla. But, all I can say is try different things and be persistent. If he is doing something that feels good, tell him. If it's not working, let him know. Also, it's very difficult for me to achieve one as well but I find that the right mindset REALLY helps. You can't go into it thinking about anything but what's happening. The second your mind wanders you lose pretty much all chances. Just focus on it and want it and relax.Advice on female orgasms? This is mainly directed towards females.?
for me I can ONLY orgasm when I'm on top, kind ofleaning over him, not sitting straight up and not bouncing up and down but kind of rocking back and forth, when you do that your clit will rub against his pubic bone and after a while you should feel something, try having him play with your nipples while you do this i find that also helps greatly, if your nipples aren't very sensitive have him do something else that turns you on, some people like spanking or a little bit of nails that is just an example asi don't know your preferences
I feel so very bad that masturbation is weird for you. Masturbation is AMAZING! But anyways, yeah...try having your boyfriend go down on you...that usually does it for me. Or you and your boyfriend can go out to a sex shop and invest in some lotions or creams that can enhance and induce orgasms.....
I understand how it can be frustrating sometimes.... I have the same problem... Maybe you can get some toys? sometimes nothing works....sometimes different positions work too... I have found that the cowgirl position works for me (sometimes) anyway... good luck sweetie
Have him play with you with his fingers and tongue not with his D!ck.
get a little drunk and try a gang bang
I have pain in my lower left ovary while having orgasms, can somebody advice?
Let your GYN doctor know and have your doctor do an ultra sound for tumors, cysts, etc.I have pain in my lower left ovary while having orgasms, can somebody advice?
See a doctor.I have pain in my lower left ovary while having orgasms, can somebody advice?
could be a small hernia. go see your doctor they can tell you if it's any thing to worry about
You may have a cyst ask your doctor about an ultra sound they can be quite painful!!
See a doctor.I have pain in my lower left ovary while having orgasms, can somebody advice?
could be a small hernia. go see your doctor they can tell you if it's any thing to worry about
You may have a cyst ask your doctor about an ultra sound they can be quite painful!!
I can't achieve an orgasm during sex, it has been years now and I was wondering if anyone had advice?
I have been with my current boyfriend for 3 years, I am only 19 now. I get turned on easily and love having sex and he really is great at it and enjoys it as do I. The thing is, I have never reached an orgasm through having sex, only by stimulating the clitoris. I know it isn't my boyfriend, he is great, he turns me on, I am in love with him so it is not that..I try to mentally get myself there because I know it is partially psychological but I just have not been able to do it! I hate having to fake it, I am not completely faking because it does feel very very good but I just cannot get it all the way. Any help, any advice, anyone dealing with the same thing?I can't achieve an orgasm during sex, it has been years now and I was wondering if anyone had advice?
You are normal. Most women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone.I can't achieve an orgasm during sex, it has been years now and I was wondering if anyone had advice?
your problem is simple solved just tell your boyfriend what will bring you to orgasm and that's by stimulating your clitoris and letting ll your emotions go to hell.
Most women require clitoral stimulation even during sex to reach orgasm. Rub or have your boyfriend rub your clitoris during sex, I rub my wife's (alternating with oral attention on it) each and every time we have sex.
You are normal. Most women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone.I can't achieve an orgasm during sex, it has been years now and I was wondering if anyone had advice?
your problem is simple solved just tell your boyfriend what will bring you to orgasm and that's by stimulating your clitoris and letting ll your emotions go to hell.
Most women require clitoral stimulation even during sex to reach orgasm. Rub or have your boyfriend rub your clitoris during sex, I rub my wife's (alternating with oral attention on it) each and every time we have sex.
I dont have regular orgasms. Advice?
i have been sexually active for a while now but i have never actually experienced a ';normal'; orgasm. i have ';squirted'; though but i hate having to clean up the mess afterwards. i have a feeling i'm never just gonna experience the breathtaking moment of a regular orgasm.
squirting just feels like i'm taking a piss and i hate the idea of it b/c it isn't sexy to me. i just want to have a regular orgasm!I dont have regular orgasms. Advice?
You need to get to know your body, you need to maybe master bate by yourself in private or with your partner. You can share the masturbation process and your partner can learn also. Very few woman have internal orgasms, it takes a lot of getting to know your body and hitting the right spot.
Clitoral orgasms are very easy to obtain if doing properly.
Practice and never hold your breath when your excited, it stops blood flow.I dont have regular orgasms. Advice?
As long as you are tensed up, it is going to be very difficult for you.
answer to your question lies at the clitoris.com, you need to educate your man also. .....its an art more than education to bring a women to orgasm.....and few lucky have it..
I just jack off a lot.
squirting just feels like i'm taking a piss and i hate the idea of it b/c it isn't sexy to me. i just want to have a regular orgasm!I dont have regular orgasms. Advice?
You need to get to know your body, you need to maybe master bate by yourself in private or with your partner. You can share the masturbation process and your partner can learn also. Very few woman have internal orgasms, it takes a lot of getting to know your body and hitting the right spot.
Clitoral orgasms are very easy to obtain if doing properly.
Practice and never hold your breath when your excited, it stops blood flow.I dont have regular orgasms. Advice?
As long as you are tensed up, it is going to be very difficult for you.
answer to your question lies at the clitoris.com, you need to educate your man also. .....its an art more than education to bring a women to orgasm.....and few lucky have it..
I just jack off a lot.
Need advice on Condom Slippage and How to prolong an Orgasm (in males)?
My boyfriend and I had sex 2 nights ago.
Let me figure out how to say this...
Basically, we both get excessively wet.
He stops every few minutes to check on the condom and make sure it's not going to slip off.
I then get distracted and find that if I was 'close' I've lost that feeling, so to speak.
my boyfriend also has an issue with only being able to *** once, after that it can take as much as 3 hours to 'recuperate' and I tend to think about this during because I know that if he cums then we'll have to wait awhile to do it again. I'd like us both to enjoy it [and each other...]
I got upset and emotional earlier because he came and I didn't. I felt like a failure (ie: impotent)
He calls himself a 'one minute man' and says that it's not my fault...but,seeing as how this is my first sexual experience, I guess I've just disappointed myself.
I love him a great deal and I wish I knew how to make things better.
to clarify:
we've had sex twice...the first times [2 nights ago] he changed it 4 times and we ran out of condoms. :\
3 Issues:
* I can't figure out how to ease his fears/paranoia about slippage
* can't relax enough and stop thinking so I can just enjoy it.
* Can't figure out how to make him last longer or lessen the recuperation time
and it was MY first time, it wasn't his...Need advice on Condom Slippage and How to prolong an Orgasm (in males)?
I can't remember exactly... If you apply a local anesthesia, it lowers sensitivity, making it take longer for him to ejaculate. Dibu-something hydrochloride.
It's odd that he's so careful. If you're on the pill, just tell him to relax because you're on it. If not, I'd recommend starting and use the same thing.
There are other preventative measures that might ease his mind. Look those up. Spermicides and whatnot.
And really, sit him down and talk to him. Tell him to try and hold on. The girl needs to be able to enjoy it too.Need advice on Condom Slippage and How to prolong an Orgasm (in males)?
Foreplay will make sure you had your fun already, and/or even make youir orgasm again faster while penetrating.
Another thing you can try is masturbation. Through masturbation you can explore yourself and what and how you like most, so that you orgasm more easily. If you need some tips on masturbation, just let me know.
Super glue will make it stick
I think u should talk to him about those 3 issues...obviously its bothering u! sooo talk to ur partner let him know wuts going on! If he loves you he will care enough to know wut u think..Its not really fair that he gets all the fun while u sit there and get nothing back from the experience especially it being ur first time! soo sit down and have a talk with him...As to him being worried about the condom thing...maybe something happened in the past that he doesn't want to happened again... or maybe his just being careful for both or ur sakes! there is nothing wrong with having Safe Sex! actually Its even better if u do!!! that way u wont get an unwanted pregnancy or catch anything from him! u never know! good luck! =D
Condom slippage: Hubby and I found LifeStyles has a condom called Snugger Fit. They maintain a great hold on the shaft. No more condom slippage for us :o)
Relaxing during sex: Hun, I've been married 12 years and still haven't conquered that one! The kids are into something, the dog's barking, the phone's ringing, I just remembered I forgot to pay a bill...
But, I find that the proper amount of foreplay gets my mind into the game quite nicely. Sometimes it only takes 10 mins - sometimes 45 mins. I have two books that I love dearly that may help the both of you: written by Ian Kerner - ';She Comes First: The thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman'; and ';He Comes Next: The thinking woman's guide to pleasuring a man';. Both very good reads - extremely enlightening.
One quick suggestion for prolonging sex/delaying his orgasm - exercising his pelvic muscles (The book(s) suggested above cover this topic quite nicely). Just like Kegels for women - guys have nearly identical muscles they need to learn to strengthen and gain control over. Hubby pauses when he reaches ';that point';, holds the muscle tight for a second or two, and goes back at it. We've gone for 30 mins at times... *I* can't handle much longer than that :o) I don't suggest using temporary crutches like numbing products - just like school, no one gains anything by cheating.
Recoup time - comes with his physical stamina, tiredness and sexual experience. Guys are sometimes just too spent to go straight for it again. Orgasms for them are body draining - sometimes mentally draining, as well. They just can't get back into it again for a bit. The penis cam be extremely sensitive for at least 15-30 minutes after he comes.
Let me figure out how to say this...
Basically, we both get excessively wet.
He stops every few minutes to check on the condom and make sure it's not going to slip off.
I then get distracted and find that if I was 'close' I've lost that feeling, so to speak.
my boyfriend also has an issue with only being able to *** once, after that it can take as much as 3 hours to 'recuperate' and I tend to think about this during because I know that if he cums then we'll have to wait awhile to do it again. I'd like us both to enjoy it [and each other...]
I got upset and emotional earlier because he came and I didn't. I felt like a failure (ie: impotent)
He calls himself a 'one minute man' and says that it's not my fault...but,seeing as how this is my first sexual experience, I guess I've just disappointed myself.
I love him a great deal and I wish I knew how to make things better.
to clarify:
we've had sex twice...the first times [2 nights ago] he changed it 4 times and we ran out of condoms. :\
3 Issues:
* I can't figure out how to ease his fears/paranoia about slippage
* can't relax enough and stop thinking so I can just enjoy it.
* Can't figure out how to make him last longer or lessen the recuperation time
and it was MY first time, it wasn't his...Need advice on Condom Slippage and How to prolong an Orgasm (in males)?
I can't remember exactly... If you apply a local anesthesia, it lowers sensitivity, making it take longer for him to ejaculate. Dibu-something hydrochloride.
It's odd that he's so careful. If you're on the pill, just tell him to relax because you're on it. If not, I'd recommend starting and use the same thing.
There are other preventative measures that might ease his mind. Look those up. Spermicides and whatnot.
And really, sit him down and talk to him. Tell him to try and hold on. The girl needs to be able to enjoy it too.Need advice on Condom Slippage and How to prolong an Orgasm (in males)?
Foreplay will make sure you had your fun already, and/or even make youir orgasm again faster while penetrating.
Another thing you can try is masturbation. Through masturbation you can explore yourself and what and how you like most, so that you orgasm more easily. If you need some tips on masturbation, just let me know.
Super glue will make it stick
I think u should talk to him about those 3 issues...obviously its bothering u! sooo talk to ur partner let him know wuts going on! If he loves you he will care enough to know wut u think..Its not really fair that he gets all the fun while u sit there and get nothing back from the experience especially it being ur first time! soo sit down and have a talk with him...As to him being worried about the condom thing...maybe something happened in the past that he doesn't want to happened again... or maybe his just being careful for both or ur sakes! there is nothing wrong with having Safe Sex! actually Its even better if u do!!! that way u wont get an unwanted pregnancy or catch anything from him! u never know! good luck! =D
Condom slippage: Hubby and I found LifeStyles has a condom called Snugger Fit. They maintain a great hold on the shaft. No more condom slippage for us :o)
Relaxing during sex: Hun, I've been married 12 years and still haven't conquered that one! The kids are into something, the dog's barking, the phone's ringing, I just remembered I forgot to pay a bill...
But, I find that the proper amount of foreplay gets my mind into the game quite nicely. Sometimes it only takes 10 mins - sometimes 45 mins. I have two books that I love dearly that may help the both of you: written by Ian Kerner - ';She Comes First: The thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman'; and ';He Comes Next: The thinking woman's guide to pleasuring a man';. Both very good reads - extremely enlightening.
One quick suggestion for prolonging sex/delaying his orgasm - exercising his pelvic muscles (The book(s) suggested above cover this topic quite nicely). Just like Kegels for women - guys have nearly identical muscles they need to learn to strengthen and gain control over. Hubby pauses when he reaches ';that point';, holds the muscle tight for a second or two, and goes back at it. We've gone for 30 mins at times... *I* can't handle much longer than that :o) I don't suggest using temporary crutches like numbing products - just like school, no one gains anything by cheating.
Recoup time - comes with his physical stamina, tiredness and sexual experience. Guys are sometimes just too spent to go straight for it again. Orgasms for them are body draining - sometimes mentally draining, as well. They just can't get back into it again for a bit. The penis cam be extremely sensitive for at least 15-30 minutes after he comes.
How can i have an Orgasm? i have never had one before. Tips or advice on how to have one PLEASE!?
i am 19 years old and i am dating a guy i like very much when we have sex i get really turned on but i do not have an orgasm i have tried masturbation and i can not make myself orgasm. i have some other sexual partners in my life and they have not managed to make me orgasm. i am not stressed and i do not think a bout it till after. Please help me and give me some tips to make me orgasm i relly want to know wat it feels like and experience itHow can i have an Orgasm? i have never had one before. Tips or advice on how to have one PLEASE!?
Something around 90% of women never experience orgasms at the hands [or other extremities] of men -- so don't feel alone!
Have you ever taken a day off to just explore yourself and find what makes you excited, and essentially feel *good*?
It's much needed if not.How can i have an Orgasm? i have never had one before. Tips or advice on how to have one PLEASE!?
Let your partner lick on it for a while, until you feel like you're going to burst, before you actually start having sex. Once you've started actually having sex, rub on your clitoris to stimulate the orgasm. Have your partner finger your while they're down there. That really seems to help me. I had the same problem before I had my first child. Sometimes women don't have orgasms until after they've had children, or later on in life. Just explore yourself, and you'll find what you like, and don't like. Hope you find what works for you!
I'm 19 also and have the same exact same problem! It sucks! I've posted a question like this too with no luck. I wish I could give you some advice but idk either.
rub the clitoris while having sex and let the guy play with you before having sex.(like eating it)
Come see me.
have him eat you out ?
It's a challenge for a lot of women to orgasm, so don't worry - you aren't the only one. It takes a lot of practice and time to see what works for you. I know you said masturbation doesn't feel right for you, and that's OK. But it really can help! Just take some time to see what ';pushes your buttons';. For some women, it's clitoral stimulation; for some, it's G-spot stimulation; and for some, it's both. It really depends. If you're comfortable with this, you can always try using something to help you along...I know that some people like to use things like vibrating toothbrushes.
When you're actually having intercourse, just try to let your mind go. Don't think about orgasm, because the more you focus on it, the more difficult it might be to actually achieve it. Think about exactly how your body is feeling and try to get lost in the moment. Don't be afraid to give him a little squeeze to let him know when he's doing something that feels good, or to guide his hands if you want to. He'll appreciate the help.
All you can do is just keep trying. It will happen eventually. My boyfriend and I have been trying for about a year, and I still haven't. I just try not to let it get to me, and I know that at some point, I will. Good luck! :)lip liner
Something around 90% of women never experience orgasms at the hands [or other extremities] of men -- so don't feel alone!
Have you ever taken a day off to just explore yourself and find what makes you excited, and essentially feel *good*?
It's much needed if not.How can i have an Orgasm? i have never had one before. Tips or advice on how to have one PLEASE!?
Let your partner lick on it for a while, until you feel like you're going to burst, before you actually start having sex. Once you've started actually having sex, rub on your clitoris to stimulate the orgasm. Have your partner finger your while they're down there. That really seems to help me. I had the same problem before I had my first child. Sometimes women don't have orgasms until after they've had children, or later on in life. Just explore yourself, and you'll find what you like, and don't like. Hope you find what works for you!
I'm 19 also and have the same exact same problem! It sucks! I've posted a question like this too with no luck. I wish I could give you some advice but idk either.
rub the clitoris while having sex and let the guy play with you before having sex.(like eating it)
Come see me.
have him eat you out ?
It's a challenge for a lot of women to orgasm, so don't worry - you aren't the only one. It takes a lot of practice and time to see what works for you. I know you said masturbation doesn't feel right for you, and that's OK. But it really can help! Just take some time to see what ';pushes your buttons';. For some women, it's clitoral stimulation; for some, it's G-spot stimulation; and for some, it's both. It really depends. If you're comfortable with this, you can always try using something to help you along...I know that some people like to use things like vibrating toothbrushes.
When you're actually having intercourse, just try to let your mind go. Don't think about orgasm, because the more you focus on it, the more difficult it might be to actually achieve it. Think about exactly how your body is feeling and try to get lost in the moment. Don't be afraid to give him a little squeeze to let him know when he's doing something that feels good, or to guide his hands if you want to. He'll appreciate the help.
All you can do is just keep trying. It will happen eventually. My boyfriend and I have been trying for about a year, and I still haven't. I just try not to let it get to me, and I know that at some point, I will. Good luck! :)
Guys Help!!! Need advice from guys. My man says he has never had an orgasm.?
My spouse says that he has never had an orgasm and I don't quite know how to make that happen for him. I've tried to be open minded and try new things in the bedroom that I think he would like and for him, sex is always the same. No matter what position we try, sex is always the same for him. For me it is a new experience everytime cuz I try something new but still the same old sex for him. Any suggestions guys? Or does he have some kind of problem or do I?
Thanks for answers in advance!Guys Help!!! Need advice from guys. My man says he has never had an orgasm.?
Most men fake orgasms, but are too shy to ever admit this fact. You see, men are full of testosterone, and this, coupled with egotistic tendencies leads us to become (in women's minds) very sexual. We aren't.
What men crave is cuddling. A tender touch. A look from the very soul of a woman.
Very few men have actually had orgasm. If men could so easily attain them, this world would be much more populated.Guys Help!!! Need advice from guys. My man says he has never had an orgasm.?
ell him to masterbate DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!
maybe he says that so you will keep trying new things......
Can he do it on his own?
Or does it just not happen during inercourse?
If he cant do it during sexual congress, it could be a ';fit'; issue. Not enough friction and nothings going to happen.
There are toys you can buy to help with that.
If he can't do it at all, you need to have him see a doctor.
hes lying ofcaorse he has!!!
Has your man had his testosterone checked by a urologist?
he doesnt ejaculate? he just stays hard? if thats the case I think he might want to talk to a doctor. I can't think of a single reason why a guy could get it up and then not ejaculate.
if he ejaculates..then he's had an orgasm. but of course,he could have a medical problem keeping him from this and needs to see a dr. not try new things in the bedroom.
watch a porno n the problem comes from him if he has had sex to much or bein exposed to sexual material at a young age over masterbatin or anythin like that
Sorry, I find that impossible to believe. But if you think he's telling the truth then tell him he needs to see a urologist. And if hasn't seen one by now, why not?
Sounds like a prank, maybe he's gay, what can i say
sorry hes gay stick it in his rear then give him a nice reach around
Yes you do need help....
take viagra
Thanks for answers in advance!Guys Help!!! Need advice from guys. My man says he has never had an orgasm.?
Most men fake orgasms, but are too shy to ever admit this fact. You see, men are full of testosterone, and this, coupled with egotistic tendencies leads us to become (in women's minds) very sexual. We aren't.
What men crave is cuddling. A tender touch. A look from the very soul of a woman.
Very few men have actually had orgasm. If men could so easily attain them, this world would be much more populated.Guys Help!!! Need advice from guys. My man says he has never had an orgasm.?
ell him to masterbate DUH!!!!!!!!!!!!
maybe he says that so you will keep trying new things......
Can he do it on his own?
Or does it just not happen during inercourse?
If he cant do it during sexual congress, it could be a ';fit'; issue. Not enough friction and nothings going to happen.
There are toys you can buy to help with that.
If he can't do it at all, you need to have him see a doctor.
hes lying ofcaorse he has!!!
Has your man had his testosterone checked by a urologist?
he doesnt ejaculate? he just stays hard? if thats the case I think he might want to talk to a doctor. I can't think of a single reason why a guy could get it up and then not ejaculate.
if he ejaculates..then he's had an orgasm. but of course,he could have a medical problem keeping him from this and needs to see a dr. not try new things in the bedroom.
watch a porno n the problem comes from him if he has had sex to much or bein exposed to sexual material at a young age over masterbatin or anythin like that
Sorry, I find that impossible to believe. But if you think he's telling the truth then tell him he needs to see a urologist. And if hasn't seen one by now, why not?
Sounds like a prank, maybe he's gay, what can i say
sorry hes gay stick it in his rear then give him a nice reach around
Yes you do need help....
take viagra
I lost my feelings i cant feel an orgasm since last night. i need ur advice?
I've known my guy for almost a year now.We're both in our 20's i I really adore him and easily get turned on when i'm around him or by talking to him on the phone which i know most girl goes through its such a sweet feeling for me. we've had oral sex four times since and last night was the most terrible, embarrassing moment of my life. He started kissing me which felt good as we get down to each other i totally lost myself meaning i couldnt feel anything my guy tried almost every pose, every way of making me get turned on but i was completey dead all of all the times i spent with him last night was the only time i havent feel nothing. I'm scared i dont want to loose him.Please give me some advice ..i'm thinking of seeing a Gnynocologist this wkend to fix my problem.. my guy is really understanding he said that it could have been stres causing that .. wat do i do????I lost my feelings i cant feel an orgasm since last night. i need ur advice?
you will feel it again give it time
you will feel it again give it time
My boyfriend has only had one orgasm since we have been together. Need advice on how to discuss it.?
We have been together for 4 months and he has had only one orgasm. He has no problem getting or keeping an erection and he really seems in to me. I have tried discussing this with him and he says that as long as I have an orgasm, that is all that matters to him. It makes me feel like I cannot please him. I suspect he is taking an antidepressant which is affecting this (I'm a nurse) and I would like advice on how to broach the subject without prying too much.My boyfriend has only had one orgasm since we have been together. Need advice on how to discuss it.?
If you really like him, and are close enough to sleep together, then you'll be fine to just ask him outright! It does seem a bit daunting at first as you never know how a guy will react! Tell him that you're worried you're not satisfying him, and tell him how much you'd like to do that. This might make him realise that it could be upsetting you, and he should be more willing to talk. Although, men are strange creatures, so it may take a few goes!! Good luck, hope I've helped :-) My boyfriend has only had one orgasm since we have been together. Need advice on how to discuss it.?
probably it is not you and he has a problem of some sort. being a nurse i would think you would have suggested he see a doctor and explain to him that you are very very happy that is concern is for you to have a orgasm and you love the fact that he cares yet you feel the same way about him also having a orgasm. this is another form of good communication for a great relationship.
first of all, man don't have orgasm, man ejaculate.
have you tried, taking longer time, b4 intercourse?
meaning playing a little longer, and kiss him more, in areas where he truly likes? It's not normal what happens to him, it could be that he is taking some pills that are making him delay so much or not able to have an ejaculation, but also the mind plays the most important role, and that could be the problem.
1) I wouldn't worry about it. If he says he's satisfied, he's satisfied.
2) If you really, really want him to orgasm, you're going to have to do something different. That means some other form of stimulation.
3) The way you approach it is you just start using the different form of stimulation and see what happens. If he asks you about it afterwards, tell him you want to make it as good for him as it is for you. That should get the ball rolling.
This is a very sentative subject for guys. I think the best way to deal with this is just try doing different things with him. Ask him what he likes. It maybe he is so concentrated on pleasing you that he can't concentrate on himself. Have a night were it is just all about him and see if he becomes more comfortable with you and is able to orgasm more. Hope this helps
I THINK THE ANTIDEPRESANT IS NOT THE ISSUE, BECAUSE TRUST ME GUYS HAVE NO PROBLEM CU**** EVEN IF ON MEDICINE LOL
I THINK THERE IS A DEEPER ISSUE HERE, MABYE HE'S NOT ABLE TO RELAX DURING SEX, OR MABYE HE HAS TO FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE AROUND YOU. IT CAN EVEN BE POSSIBLE THAT HE IS JA***** OFF BEFORE YOU TWO DO IT.
DONT PRESURE HIM, IF YOU CAN GET HIM TO RELAX HE''LL GET THERE.
GOOD LUCK
mention that him haveing an orgams is part of him pleasing you.. and ask if there is anythig you can do to help the process.. like screaming rape when u orgasm.. u get the idea.. just gota raelly find which buttons to push
he is pulling your leg - men have orgams every time they ejaculate .. you the one who needs them.
Try pleasing him for a change. Have a night dedicated only to him. But first, figure out what he likes to do in bed, in terms of foreplay, stuff like that. If you want to keep it discreet, try doing intimate emails or IMs during work or while one of you is gone on a trip.
A little teasing goes a long way, too. Believe it or not, some men like to be teased just as much as women. It also makes an orgasm inevitable. Try pole dancing, role playing, the whole nine, anything that involves him begging you to let him touch you. Go all out.
If you really like him, and are close enough to sleep together, then you'll be fine to just ask him outright! It does seem a bit daunting at first as you never know how a guy will react! Tell him that you're worried you're not satisfying him, and tell him how much you'd like to do that. This might make him realise that it could be upsetting you, and he should be more willing to talk. Although, men are strange creatures, so it may take a few goes!! Good luck, hope I've helped :-) My boyfriend has only had one orgasm since we have been together. Need advice on how to discuss it.?
probably it is not you and he has a problem of some sort. being a nurse i would think you would have suggested he see a doctor and explain to him that you are very very happy that is concern is for you to have a orgasm and you love the fact that he cares yet you feel the same way about him also having a orgasm. this is another form of good communication for a great relationship.
first of all, man don't have orgasm, man ejaculate.
have you tried, taking longer time, b4 intercourse?
meaning playing a little longer, and kiss him more, in areas where he truly likes? It's not normal what happens to him, it could be that he is taking some pills that are making him delay so much or not able to have an ejaculation, but also the mind plays the most important role, and that could be the problem.
1) I wouldn't worry about it. If he says he's satisfied, he's satisfied.
2) If you really, really want him to orgasm, you're going to have to do something different. That means some other form of stimulation.
3) The way you approach it is you just start using the different form of stimulation and see what happens. If he asks you about it afterwards, tell him you want to make it as good for him as it is for you. That should get the ball rolling.
This is a very sentative subject for guys. I think the best way to deal with this is just try doing different things with him. Ask him what he likes. It maybe he is so concentrated on pleasing you that he can't concentrate on himself. Have a night were it is just all about him and see if he becomes more comfortable with you and is able to orgasm more. Hope this helps
I THINK THE ANTIDEPRESANT IS NOT THE ISSUE, BECAUSE TRUST ME GUYS HAVE NO PROBLEM CU**** EVEN IF ON MEDICINE LOL
I THINK THERE IS A DEEPER ISSUE HERE, MABYE HE'S NOT ABLE TO RELAX DURING SEX, OR MABYE HE HAS TO FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE AROUND YOU. IT CAN EVEN BE POSSIBLE THAT HE IS JA***** OFF BEFORE YOU TWO DO IT.
DONT PRESURE HIM, IF YOU CAN GET HIM TO RELAX HE''LL GET THERE.
GOOD LUCK
mention that him haveing an orgams is part of him pleasing you.. and ask if there is anythig you can do to help the process.. like screaming rape when u orgasm.. u get the idea.. just gota raelly find which buttons to push
he is pulling your leg - men have orgams every time they ejaculate .. you the one who needs them.
Try pleasing him for a change. Have a night dedicated only to him. But first, figure out what he likes to do in bed, in terms of foreplay, stuff like that. If you want to keep it discreet, try doing intimate emails or IMs during work or while one of you is gone on a trip.
A little teasing goes a long way, too. Believe it or not, some men like to be teased just as much as women. It also makes an orgasm inevitable. Try pole dancing, role playing, the whole nine, anything that involves him begging you to let him touch you. Go all out.
I have been with my bf for 15 yrs, He's only made me orgasm once! C'mon guys some advice PLEEEEASE ?
OK well basically when my bf reaches his climax, he seems to think thats it!! it is so frustrating, I either roll over or fake it..then when he has gone to sleep I pull the good ole vibrator out, lucky I have one if you ask me. I have explained everything to my partner, he listens and says he will try better but well it just aint happening, our sex usually lasts oh i dunno maybe 5 mins max and its driving me nuts, the vibrator gives me the satisfaction but i would really love my partner to be able to do this for me..I have been so desperate lately that every chance I get its porn or the toys whichever comes first.,.any advice would be great..oh and incase your wondering from his point of view im not ugly or anything and have a pretty good body im toned and fit..so whats wrong with me????I have been with my bf for 15 yrs, He's only made me orgasm once! C'mon guys some advice PLEEEEASE ?
he just aint hittin it right i would reccomened u talk to him about getting some PILLS longer lasting like extenze or someting because my wife probaly wouldnt be with me if i wasnt good in bed lol...sex is a big deal in a relationship and you need to take care of that problem asap...or it will cause lots more strain on your realationship...........................鈥?him enzyte or extenze or somtingI have been with my bf for 15 yrs, He's only made me orgasm once! C'mon guys some advice PLEEEEASE ?
Okay, maybe this might be a goofy answer but have you considered having him finish you with the vibrator? If you guys are getting married you should be able to communicate on something as serious as that. I know sex isn't all there is to marriage but it is an important part. Ask him if he'd try it for you, or at least do other things to you while you finish yourself off. Good luck.
If you're marrying, you should love each other enough to want to make them happy, including fulfilling their sexual needs. So he listens and says he'll do more, but doesn't? Hmm. Communicate when having sex, tell him to do things that you like, sit on top so you're in control. If he still doesn't do anything, then wow! Selfish in bed or what.. Give him a huge piece of your mind ;)
WOW!............ thats crazy, not to brag but i can usually go for hours, sometime make my partner *** twice, its a mind over matter thing honestly, it aint gonna get better, cuz its his body,
You say he said he'll try, but them you let him not bother. Simple new rule: he doesn't get his until after you've got yours. If nothing else, have him use the toys on you first.
What's wrong with you?
You put up with it for 15 years, that's what.
Why are you whinging about it now?
maybe tell him to foreplay with you more??? to get it really high, then start having wild crazy sex to make u ***?
Well, my first thought is why have you had a bf for 15yrs? Not that marriage is the end all be all, but depending on why he is a bf and not a husband, it might explain a certain lack of concern for your needs.
Sex is certainly an individual thing and different for everyone, but if your needs are not being met, then somethings got to ';rip or slip';.
First thing is, it needs to matter to him that you are not being satisfied. If it doesn't, nothing will make it better. If he does care and just isn't able to control his own pleasure long enough to make you happy, perhaps you need to change the order in which things are done.
A little oral before and during can heat up the pan so that you are able to get there faster. It also slows him down so that he can last longer and not just go full steam ahead.
Good luck. Your situation can be VERY frustration and I hope he cares enough to really work on it. Toys are fun, but nothing compares the real thing.
he just aint hittin it right i would reccomened u talk to him about getting some PILLS longer lasting like extenze or someting because my wife probaly wouldnt be with me if i wasnt good in bed lol...sex is a big deal in a relationship and you need to take care of that problem asap...or it will cause lots more strain on your realationship...........................鈥?him enzyte or extenze or somtingI have been with my bf for 15 yrs, He's only made me orgasm once! C'mon guys some advice PLEEEEASE ?
Okay, maybe this might be a goofy answer but have you considered having him finish you with the vibrator? If you guys are getting married you should be able to communicate on something as serious as that. I know sex isn't all there is to marriage but it is an important part. Ask him if he'd try it for you, or at least do other things to you while you finish yourself off. Good luck.
If you're marrying, you should love each other enough to want to make them happy, including fulfilling their sexual needs. So he listens and says he'll do more, but doesn't? Hmm. Communicate when having sex, tell him to do things that you like, sit on top so you're in control. If he still doesn't do anything, then wow! Selfish in bed or what.. Give him a huge piece of your mind ;)
WOW!............ thats crazy, not to brag but i can usually go for hours, sometime make my partner *** twice, its a mind over matter thing honestly, it aint gonna get better, cuz its his body,
You say he said he'll try, but them you let him not bother. Simple new rule: he doesn't get his until after you've got yours. If nothing else, have him use the toys on you first.
What's wrong with you?
You put up with it for 15 years, that's what.
Why are you whinging about it now?
maybe tell him to foreplay with you more??? to get it really high, then start having wild crazy sex to make u ***?
Well, my first thought is why have you had a bf for 15yrs? Not that marriage is the end all be all, but depending on why he is a bf and not a husband, it might explain a certain lack of concern for your needs.
Sex is certainly an individual thing and different for everyone, but if your needs are not being met, then somethings got to ';rip or slip';.
First thing is, it needs to matter to him that you are not being satisfied. If it doesn't, nothing will make it better. If he does care and just isn't able to control his own pleasure long enough to make you happy, perhaps you need to change the order in which things are done.
A little oral before and during can heat up the pan so that you are able to get there faster. It also slows him down so that he can last longer and not just go full steam ahead.
Good luck. Your situation can be VERY frustration and I hope he cares enough to really work on it. Toys are fun, but nothing compares the real thing.
No orgasm, antidepressents, going to try vitamins; any advice on how to increase the chance of an orgasm?
Ok, here are the details.
I'm on the following medications:
cymbalta, effexor, lamictal, trazadone, buspar, klonopin
I've noticed that since the cymbalta was increased, I haven't been able to have an orgasm. Now, when I was only on wellbutrin; I could have them all the time; sometimes 3 right after the other.
But I've never been able to have an orgasm during sex or oral-sex. Only with the use of a vibrator or shower. Now, even the vibrator won't work and I'm afraid I'm desensitized.
I'm just wondering if anyone found a good way to increase the chances even with someone taking antidepressants. I'd like to have one even with oral sex, so that I can stop ';faking it';, which I know is a big ';no-no';. Although to get an orgasm before, with the vibrator, it had to be at the highest setting, so I can see why oral sex wouldn't do it.
Today I bought Virmax Ds for women, a multivitamin with extra B, a vitamin combination for people taking effexor, and an vitamin E oil/cream.
Any suggestions?No orgasm, antidepressents, going to try vitamins; any advice on how to increase the chance of an orgasm?
SSRIs are famous for that.
ask your doc if you can switch to something like wellbutrin, that has low sexual side effects.No orgasm, antidepressents, going to try vitamins; any advice on how to increase the chance of an orgasm?
from the looks of your avatar, you probably have connections in the medical field. you can discuss adding in a little wellbutrin to the mix
I'm on the following medications:
cymbalta, effexor, lamictal, trazadone, buspar, klonopin
I've noticed that since the cymbalta was increased, I haven't been able to have an orgasm. Now, when I was only on wellbutrin; I could have them all the time; sometimes 3 right after the other.
But I've never been able to have an orgasm during sex or oral-sex. Only with the use of a vibrator or shower. Now, even the vibrator won't work and I'm afraid I'm desensitized.
I'm just wondering if anyone found a good way to increase the chances even with someone taking antidepressants. I'd like to have one even with oral sex, so that I can stop ';faking it';, which I know is a big ';no-no';. Although to get an orgasm before, with the vibrator, it had to be at the highest setting, so I can see why oral sex wouldn't do it.
Today I bought Virmax Ds for women, a multivitamin with extra B, a vitamin combination for people taking effexor, and an vitamin E oil/cream.
Any suggestions?No orgasm, antidepressents, going to try vitamins; any advice on how to increase the chance of an orgasm?
SSRIs are famous for that.
ask your doc if you can switch to something like wellbutrin, that has low sexual side effects.No orgasm, antidepressents, going to try vitamins; any advice on how to increase the chance of an orgasm?
from the looks of your avatar, you probably have connections in the medical field. you can discuss adding in a little wellbutrin to the mix
I need advice or help regarding reaching an orgasm..?
I am a lesbian and i am 19 years old (keep in mind any bashing will be deleted). I have had sexual experiences with both male (before i came out) and female. Obviously i enjoy it more with the female...thats besides the point. I have had numerous partners and some werent as good. But im dating a girl whom i find rather enjoyable in that sense. I cant seem to ever achieve an orgasm with anyone. I thought maybe it was because theyre werent good. but this is about my 10th partner, and it still hasn't happened. i don't know if its me, or if theres something wrong. Its frustrating.
Help!!I need advice or help regarding reaching an orgasm..?
Are you able to orgasm by yourself? If you are able to then it is not you, it is your partners. If you have never been able to orgasm just keep trying new things. Do not put that much pressure on yourself to have an orgasm. Sometimes you orgasm and sometimes you don't. It's not the end of the world one way or the other. Just keep practicing... practice makes perfect! :)
Edit: the G-Spot is up inside you about 1 1/2 inches on the belly side of your vagina. Unless your parter has a seriously long tongue (like Gene Simmons) they will not be able to ';eat that out.'; Also, ';squirting'; and an orgasm like you are talking about are not the same thing.I need advice or help regarding reaching an orgasm..?
Easy way is follow this.What my wife does is after fore play and and oral sex she take my penis in her hand starts rub against her clitories.she will be sleep upwords and man should nort move.she maintains her rythum and see the result
Okay this is going to sound VERY disgusting but go to google and type in ';how to reach an orgasm'; they may have some videos to show you certain spots. Also try eating each other out and sucking on each others clitoris or eating out on the g-spot to make each other squirt. It seems to make people orgasm.
Being frustrated will make it much harder for you. If you stop thinking about an orgasm, and just appreciate the pleasure she gives you, then it will catch you by surprise one day.
Definitely masturbate more. It's good to know what pleasures you, and you will feel much less under pressure.
Maybe you are more visual so try watching adult films while your at it.
Find your erogenous area. (Ex. inner arm, clit, vulva, etc.) Then concentrate on it more. And make sure you are enjoying yourself.
Also, you may want to use a dildo or vibrator or some sort of sex toy. Try reaching you G-spot or your A-spot. Try using it in the anus too.lip liner
Help!!I need advice or help regarding reaching an orgasm..?
Are you able to orgasm by yourself? If you are able to then it is not you, it is your partners. If you have never been able to orgasm just keep trying new things. Do not put that much pressure on yourself to have an orgasm. Sometimes you orgasm and sometimes you don't. It's not the end of the world one way or the other. Just keep practicing... practice makes perfect! :)
Edit: the G-Spot is up inside you about 1 1/2 inches on the belly side of your vagina. Unless your parter has a seriously long tongue (like Gene Simmons) they will not be able to ';eat that out.'; Also, ';squirting'; and an orgasm like you are talking about are not the same thing.I need advice or help regarding reaching an orgasm..?
Easy way is follow this.What my wife does is after fore play and and oral sex she take my penis in her hand starts rub against her clitories.she will be sleep upwords and man should nort move.she maintains her rythum and see the result
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Okay this is going to sound VERY disgusting but go to google and type in ';how to reach an orgasm'; they may have some videos to show you certain spots. Also try eating each other out and sucking on each others clitoris or eating out on the g-spot to make each other squirt. It seems to make people orgasm.
Being frustrated will make it much harder for you. If you stop thinking about an orgasm, and just appreciate the pleasure she gives you, then it will catch you by surprise one day.
Definitely masturbate more. It's good to know what pleasures you, and you will feel much less under pressure.
Maybe you are more visual so try watching adult films while your at it.
Find your erogenous area. (Ex. inner arm, clit, vulva, etc.) Then concentrate on it more. And make sure you are enjoying yourself.
Also, you may want to use a dildo or vibrator or some sort of sex toy. Try reaching you G-spot or your A-spot. Try using it in the anus too.
Seeking advice from other women:I have never had an orgasm?
I'm twenty, I have only been with one guy and I've been with him for three years. I have never had an orgasm. Everything whether it be intercourse or oral sex or ANYTHING the same thing always happens. It feels good for a while and then just dissapears. Help.Seeking advice from other women:I have never had an orgasm?
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Rabbit.
Relax.Seeking advice from other women:I have never had an orgasm?
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First, there's nothing wrong with you... You're perfectly normal. Try a vibrator. Relax and let it happen. It can be overwhelming the first time.
Buy The Rabbit (a vibrator) NOW.
Pocket Rocket.
Rabbit.
Relax.Seeking advice from other women:I have never had an orgasm?
Need a bigger dick
First, there's nothing wrong with you... You're perfectly normal. Try a vibrator. Relax and let it happen. It can be overwhelming the first time.
Buy The Rabbit (a vibrator) NOW.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Can't orgasm with boyfriend anymore, any advice?
I have been sexually active with serious boyfriends for around 4 years but I had my first orgasm ever with my current boyfriend a few weeks ago. After that, I was able to orgasm from manual or oral stimulation from him every single time we had sex.
My friend suggested that I try masturbating to learn my body and learn what truly turns me on and works for me. That led to me masturbating pretty often and I can get myself off (often multiple times a session) very easily.
The only thing is that ever since I've started that, I can't orgasm with my boyfriend anymore. I try relaxing and just enjoying what he's doing, but I guess it just doesn't feel as good anymore. I've tried giving him more direction (';a little softer';, ';faster';), but that hasn't improved much. I can tell he's bummed out that he can't get me off anymore, but I'm too embarrassed to tell him why and that I masturbate.
Any advice? (adults only please.....teenagers responding to this stuff makes me a little uneasy...)
Thanks!Can't orgasm with boyfriend anymore, any advice?
Try a lot of foreplay before you have sex. I am taking a Human Sexuality class in college and according to the professor, if a man wants his partner have an orgasm along with him, he has to get the woman close to having an orgasm. Try that!Can't orgasm with boyfriend anymore, any advice?
i have no idea honey im so sorry
My friend suggested that I try masturbating to learn my body and learn what truly turns me on and works for me. That led to me masturbating pretty often and I can get myself off (often multiple times a session) very easily.
The only thing is that ever since I've started that, I can't orgasm with my boyfriend anymore. I try relaxing and just enjoying what he's doing, but I guess it just doesn't feel as good anymore. I've tried giving him more direction (';a little softer';, ';faster';), but that hasn't improved much. I can tell he's bummed out that he can't get me off anymore, but I'm too embarrassed to tell him why and that I masturbate.
Any advice? (adults only please.....teenagers responding to this stuff makes me a little uneasy...)
Thanks!Can't orgasm with boyfriend anymore, any advice?
Try a lot of foreplay before you have sex. I am taking a Human Sexuality class in college and according to the professor, if a man wants his partner have an orgasm along with him, he has to get the woman close to having an orgasm. Try that!Can't orgasm with boyfriend anymore, any advice?
i have no idea honey im so sorry
Orgasm problems =[ Sorry I need advice?
For some reason when we first started having sex i could orgasm real fast. Now for some reason I can't have an orgasm. he gets mad and tells me ';I'm not good in be anymore right?'; and I don't know what to tell him. it's not that I don't enjoy it because I do but I get mad because he has his orgasm pulls out and it's like ok we are done.
The other day he went to wash his sperm off and we went at it again. and it went soft.! I was so pissed. But now what do i do about it?
Is something wrong with me? Please helpOrgasm problems =[ Sorry I need advice?
Nope nothing's wrong u just have to relax,and think of things that make you hot.Then everything will fall into place.And do it for the fun of it.Here are some tips.Hope i helped.Good luck.
How to Have an Orgasm Step 1: Tense Up
The type of tension that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension (myotonia). Many women have the mistaken impression that they should relax and ';just lie there'; because they've heard that relaxation during sex is important. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by incorporating a fair amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.
Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).
What is the connection between tensing muscle groups and having an orgasm? Arousal. Contracting (or tensing) certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. And arousal, of course, is the road map that helps lead most women to orgasm.
How to Have an Orgasm Step 2: Wind Down
So, where's the relaxation part of this equation? In the brain. During sex, a woman should be focused simply on feeling the sensations of the stimulation.
Have a hard time relaxing? Think of a Times Square billboard in which words stream into view from the left-hand side to the right edge, and then disappear off the screen. During sex, many women find it helpful to program their own Times Square news crawl with a repetitive mantra such as ';I can take as long as I want'; or ';This really feels great'; on their mental silent radio. It keeps the brain occupied -- but with a thought that will encourage sexual arousal rather than with a nervous, negative thought that might decrease arousal.
After this first lesson, I send my clients away with a homework assignment. During sex, they are to tense up their muscles and let their minds go silent. This technique takes practice, but it can work over time. And more often than not, my clients return to a future session with their own good news to report.
Orgasm problems =[ Sorry I need advice?
nothings wrong, i have the same problem sometimes.
maybe you should try different positions to where hes hitting your gspot...doggy style is a good one, or you being on top...if youve done those then just research and try other ways....try rubbing your clit while you are having sex, or have him do it.
does he *** really fast?
Because he is only thinking of his own pleasure. Also not taking precautions, maybe another thing on your mind.A woman's pleasure center starts in her brain. You need to be stimulated, and be ready. You need to find a more considerate lover. Someone kind, compassionate, wants to give your pleasure....a little romance always help set the scene.
No, thats quite common for most women. We last longer in sex, its just natural.
If your stupid boyfriend is giving you attitude for being a woman, kick him out of the bed and see how much he complains when his only sexual partner is his fist.
My advice is don't jump directly into sex, work your way up. Have him stimulate other areas besides your vagina. Work with your clitoris and anus (if you're comfortable with it- if you've never tried, give it a shot.)
Have longer fore-play so that you can get more sexually worked up, rather than just making out and having sex.
If anything, he should last LONGER!
My fiancee and I have sex once or twice a week, and while its not a twelve hour marathon, its about an hour to an hour and a half. Your boyfriend just needs to be more aware of YOUR needs and not just his own. We aren't as simple as the in out/up down motion as they are.
We're the Rubix Cube Of Love!
ADD%26gt; Well, while you may be beautiful, thats not why he orgasms so fast. Chances are, he has an orgasm issue that prevents him from lasting longer, and needs to work on his stamina. Most men are good for at LEAST 30 minutes.
if there is THAT much stress in the bedroom- than I dunno if I'd be feeling anything close to orgasmic. Women tend to take longer to reach climax than men and especially if your man is selfish in bed. he MAY need to ';take care of you'; first with oral pleasure and get you worked up- dont let him touch 'those'; areas for a while, but lightly touch other areas surrounding. Few women are able to climax thru vaginal sex alone and furthermore...it should NOT always be about who's climaxed or not. dont keep score in the bedroom- its about connecting with a person you love.
The BF sounds a little naive when it comes to how to treat a woman in the bedroom, if he asks such dumb questions.
I dunno about the relationship you two have...mentally or physically.
The BF needs to spend a little more time taking care of you- more foreplay the more worked up you are- the more you may respond to him.
On the flip side...depending on his age and lifestyle for the guy...dont get mad because he went soft...that's pressure on him too- ask if he would please you in other ways.
a little graphic for our underage readers, but there it is.
Hes a 2 minute man.
The other day he went to wash his sperm off and we went at it again. and it went soft.! I was so pissed. But now what do i do about it?
Is something wrong with me? Please helpOrgasm problems =[ Sorry I need advice?
Nope nothing's wrong u just have to relax,and think of things that make you hot.Then everything will fall into place.And do it for the fun of it.Here are some tips.Hope i helped.Good luck.
How to Have an Orgasm Step 1: Tense Up
The type of tension that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension (myotonia). Many women have the mistaken impression that they should relax and ';just lie there'; because they've heard that relaxation during sex is important. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by incorporating a fair amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.
Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).
What is the connection between tensing muscle groups and having an orgasm? Arousal. Contracting (or tensing) certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. And arousal, of course, is the road map that helps lead most women to orgasm.
How to Have an Orgasm Step 2: Wind Down
So, where's the relaxation part of this equation? In the brain. During sex, a woman should be focused simply on feeling the sensations of the stimulation.
Have a hard time relaxing? Think of a Times Square billboard in which words stream into view from the left-hand side to the right edge, and then disappear off the screen. During sex, many women find it helpful to program their own Times Square news crawl with a repetitive mantra such as ';I can take as long as I want'; or ';This really feels great'; on their mental silent radio. It keeps the brain occupied -- but with a thought that will encourage sexual arousal rather than with a nervous, negative thought that might decrease arousal.
After this first lesson, I send my clients away with a homework assignment. During sex, they are to tense up their muscles and let their minds go silent. This technique takes practice, but it can work over time. And more often than not, my clients return to a future session with their own good news to report.
Orgasm problems =[ Sorry I need advice?
nothings wrong, i have the same problem sometimes.
maybe you should try different positions to where hes hitting your gspot...doggy style is a good one, or you being on top...if youve done those then just research and try other ways....try rubbing your clit while you are having sex, or have him do it.
does he *** really fast?
Because he is only thinking of his own pleasure. Also not taking precautions, maybe another thing on your mind.A woman's pleasure center starts in her brain. You need to be stimulated, and be ready. You need to find a more considerate lover. Someone kind, compassionate, wants to give your pleasure....a little romance always help set the scene.
No, thats quite common for most women. We last longer in sex, its just natural.
If your stupid boyfriend is giving you attitude for being a woman, kick him out of the bed and see how much he complains when his only sexual partner is his fist.
My advice is don't jump directly into sex, work your way up. Have him stimulate other areas besides your vagina. Work with your clitoris and anus (if you're comfortable with it- if you've never tried, give it a shot.)
Have longer fore-play so that you can get more sexually worked up, rather than just making out and having sex.
If anything, he should last LONGER!
My fiancee and I have sex once or twice a week, and while its not a twelve hour marathon, its about an hour to an hour and a half. Your boyfriend just needs to be more aware of YOUR needs and not just his own. We aren't as simple as the in out/up down motion as they are.
We're the Rubix Cube Of Love!
ADD%26gt; Well, while you may be beautiful, thats not why he orgasms so fast. Chances are, he has an orgasm issue that prevents him from lasting longer, and needs to work on his stamina. Most men are good for at LEAST 30 minutes.
if there is THAT much stress in the bedroom- than I dunno if I'd be feeling anything close to orgasmic. Women tend to take longer to reach climax than men and especially if your man is selfish in bed. he MAY need to ';take care of you'; first with oral pleasure and get you worked up- dont let him touch 'those'; areas for a while, but lightly touch other areas surrounding. Few women are able to climax thru vaginal sex alone and furthermore...it should NOT always be about who's climaxed or not. dont keep score in the bedroom- its about connecting with a person you love.
The BF sounds a little naive when it comes to how to treat a woman in the bedroom, if he asks such dumb questions.
I dunno about the relationship you two have...mentally or physically.
The BF needs to spend a little more time taking care of you- more foreplay the more worked up you are- the more you may respond to him.
On the flip side...depending on his age and lifestyle for the guy...dont get mad because he went soft...that's pressure on him too- ask if he would please you in other ways.
a little graphic for our underage readers, but there it is.
Hes a 2 minute man.
Any advice for a woman who has extreme troubles with orgasms?
I have serious problems reaching orgasm. I've never done it, even on my own. I fail ta masturbating because I don't receive much pleasure from it. I'm 16, and have a stable relationship. I realise age may have to do with it, but I still want to try.
Advice will help thanks :) It's been bugging me for a while because I'd love to experience one.Any advice for a woman who has extreme troubles with orgasms?
You are not alone, many women do not climax during sex, Keep trying on your own, get a vibrator or messaging shower head in the tub. most women never even insert anything in their body when self pleasuring, find the clitoris, and explore your body. You need to know how to bring yourself to a climax to tell someone else how to do it for you.
The biggest problem is that the clitoris is on the outside of the body and not stimulated much during intercourse. Always talk openly with your partner to get out of it what both should enjoy.Any advice for a woman who has extreme troubles with orgasms?
Emma sex/orgasms is the last thing you should be thinking about at the age of 16. Talk to your parents or other family adult members, maybe they will talk some sense into you.
i would definately invest in a vibrator, i struggled and now ill never look back haha.
lovehoney.co.uk has a good range which are discreetly packaged. My personal favourite is the lady lustfinger which is under 拢3
well sorry to burst your bubble but some women never experience an orgasm you might be one of those women.
have you tried stimulating your clit that works or you could try a vibrator and don't get frustrated you have to relax and experiment a little
If you're only 16, a stable relationship makes you sound old already. I suggest you try masturbating by creating a fantasy or watch a good porno movie.
That is the only way to get to know your body and stimulate yourself. I don't think a vibrator is what you need until you get to know your body.
You could also go to a doctor and get your hormones checked as you could have low libido or something.
It could also be the fact that your boyfriend is not stimulating you adequately with foreplay, minimum 20 minutes, before penetration. Because sex is to be enjoyed. Sounds to me like you need a new boyfriend.
Advice will help thanks :) It's been bugging me for a while because I'd love to experience one.Any advice for a woman who has extreme troubles with orgasms?
You are not alone, many women do not climax during sex, Keep trying on your own, get a vibrator or messaging shower head in the tub. most women never even insert anything in their body when self pleasuring, find the clitoris, and explore your body. You need to know how to bring yourself to a climax to tell someone else how to do it for you.
The biggest problem is that the clitoris is on the outside of the body and not stimulated much during intercourse. Always talk openly with your partner to get out of it what both should enjoy.Any advice for a woman who has extreme troubles with orgasms?
Emma sex/orgasms is the last thing you should be thinking about at the age of 16. Talk to your parents or other family adult members, maybe they will talk some sense into you.
i would definately invest in a vibrator, i struggled and now ill never look back haha.
lovehoney.co.uk has a good range which are discreetly packaged. My personal favourite is the lady lustfinger which is under 拢3
well sorry to burst your bubble but some women never experience an orgasm you might be one of those women.
have you tried stimulating your clit that works or you could try a vibrator and don't get frustrated you have to relax and experiment a little
If you're only 16, a stable relationship makes you sound old already. I suggest you try masturbating by creating a fantasy or watch a good porno movie.
That is the only way to get to know your body and stimulate yourself. I don't think a vibrator is what you need until you get to know your body.
You could also go to a doctor and get your hormones checked as you could have low libido or something.
It could also be the fact that your boyfriend is not stimulating you adequately with foreplay, minimum 20 minutes, before penetration. Because sex is to be enjoyed. Sounds to me like you need a new boyfriend.
19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
I am not all that attracted to my husband nowadays but that is because sex is so retarded now. He only lasts 2 minutes.... sometimes 5 when I'm on top but it's not enjoyable 5 minutes... I have never had an orgasm and I was wondering if you had any tips on how, whether with him or by myself???19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
This is normal. You are young and just learning how your body works, don't worry. If you are not enjoying sex you will need to be adventurous. Your husband needs to masturbate more this will help him learn too control and allow him to last longer when he is having intercourse with you. Masturbation is a very healthy and a much needed thing for men. Soon he will learn how to ease up if he is getting to overly stimulated, sometimes it requires thinking about baseball or something unrelated to sex while having intercourse so that he can relax and let you catch up. You should try a vibrator ( for clitoral stimulating) and learn how your body works and how to reach orgasm, this will take time and patience but its fun too. Your husband will also need to let you reach orgasm first but first you will need to learn how to do it for yourself. A lot of it is mental, in other words you will have to be relaxed and fully turned on to get there. Masturbation's can be done together. There is no rule that intercourse has to happen at every intimate moment between the two of you. In fact men like the chase, on a subconscious level this will help your husband feel more like a man, if you tease him a little and it extends the lovemaking session. Explore what turns you both on, talk about fantasies and new things to try. Get a book or DVD on The Kuma Sutra, have fun and get adventurous pretty soon you will find what works for both of you and it will be a fun process of learning.
Good luck and happy humping, LOL :)19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
He should perform oral sex on you first to get things started (have him lick just around the clit at first and then move to licking and sucking on and around the clit later with a finger or two inside, but let him know if your clit gets too sensitive). Also don't be afraid to diddle yourself during intercourse. Have him on top to hit your G-Spot. Why can't he do it a 2nd time? I am 40 and I can do it a 2nd time with no problem, why can't he, he's young. You need to talk to him about it. If it were me, I would want to know if I could do better (and if he's a real man, he will listen). Just try to do it in a way that doesn't hurt his feelings, but it is definitely a sensitive subject, so good luck. Also, the idea of desensitizing condom or cream is not a bad idea.
First of all you have to let him know that you don't want to even have sex with him anymore because he's not satisfying you. This will hurt his ego. He's being really really selfish is he's only lasting 2-5 minutes. Tell him when he feels like he's gonna ';blow'; to stop, pull out, kiss your neck, add some foreplay, distract himself in some way, then when the urge is gone start up again. Over time he'll be able to do this without having to actually pull out. At the same time, you have to keep your mind off of everything except him, and the feeling your having. If you think to hard about it, it's not going to happen. Work your self up, have him talk dirty to you if that works. Think of something sexy about him or you, if it's his arms that are sexy then rub them and think of how sexy it is. Look at your selves in the mirror that can be a turn on to see your self. Relax and enjoy your orgasm, maybe even two or three... :)
sex takes time and practice. I don't think I really got to know myself or how to please men until about 21-22. Have you guys tried switching up the routine? try renting some pornos and acting out the scenes, thats a great way for you to try new stuff and to ';think outside of the box';. You could purchase sutra books and check out how people have sex in other parts of the world even. Make sure you are getting plenty of foreplay and stimulation, maybe play a game and tell him to tease you as long as possible until you are begging to continue. Sex is going to take time so be patient! he is young and it seems it takes a lot of men a while to learn how to control themselves (last longer) because he is so excited about sex right now. Make sure you are both communicating about how you feel about your sex life. Talks a bout sex (clothed) are very important to make sure you are both getting what you want and make sure you listen to his concerns too! Be delicate when approaching him about how long he goes, you don't want to damage his pride - that will shy him away even more in the bedroom. Good luck sweety, love each other every day and trust that if you love one another then you should be able to be a team when it comes to talking about %26amp; having sex. :)
You married someone that you are not attracted to. (I think that is problem #1) How are you supposed to be aroused by someone that you are not physically attracted to?
I thought that was the first thing that attracts you to someone is the physical.
But there doesn't seem like there is a lot of foreplay in the mix either. You might want to try some.
I can't orgasm unless I have my husband giving me oral sex and I have to use my vibrator to get there first. Then when I'm almost to that spot, I have him perform oral sex on me. Penetration alone won't get me there.
Edit: And it has NOTHING to do with you being married to young, don't listen to some of these people on here.
Tell him and talk to him about it.
When I first got with my husband he lasted so long..like 20-30 mins and it was great but nowadays he lasts 2 mins, to!! maybe 5 on a really good day.. I dont know whats up with that? Maybe because he used to jack off and now he dosnt anymore.
Anyways, I taunted and teased him about it..and hes started to take his time more : )
Talk to your man girl!
Get a mirror and explore your parts. Find out what feels good, and keep doing it. Start gently and figure out what you like, and the next time you make love, use your techniques on yourself and hopefully you will be able to get off before he does.
has he given you oral most always can have one with that. Also when your really excited get om top and you control the movment and the man can penetrate deeper and you can move the way you want to achieve an orgasm
maybe its you. maybe your a very cold woman. either that or your vagina is so loose you cant feel anything. whore! or heres an idea....dont marry a guy with a 2 inch wiener. or maybe hes not attracted to you anymore. 19? really? why are you married?
Buy a vibrator, and experiment. You will soon figure out what it is, and how to get there. Maybe you can use it together for greater intimacy.
He should give you oral, if he doesn't know how to do it maybe try a movie and learn that way.
By yourself get a vibrator....it won't take you long to figure that little friend out....it doesn't necessarily need to go inside.
have him perform fore play on you.that way you can get all worked up and hope you will then have an orgasm.ask him to perform oral on you,that should get you hot if he does it right.good luck.
To quote South Park ';Find the clitoris'; and then let your fingers do the walking.
Also, have him wear a condom (or two) so he can last longer, or tell him he needs to up the foreplay big time.
Where A desensitizing condom, durex has a good one, that should help him last longer. Have him finger you before sex so your already stimulated.
Stimulate the clit
It has nothing to do with age.. grrrr
Get rid of him or buy a vibrator
have a good play to make you very wet before he penetrate you
Maybe you shouldn't of got married at 18. Maybe your husband is just crap now you'll never know, well unless you want to be a 19 year old divorce
You got married too early.
email me....i can help
This is normal. You are young and just learning how your body works, don't worry. If you are not enjoying sex you will need to be adventurous. Your husband needs to masturbate more this will help him learn too control and allow him to last longer when he is having intercourse with you. Masturbation is a very healthy and a much needed thing for men. Soon he will learn how to ease up if he is getting to overly stimulated, sometimes it requires thinking about baseball or something unrelated to sex while having intercourse so that he can relax and let you catch up. You should try a vibrator ( for clitoral stimulating) and learn how your body works and how to reach orgasm, this will take time and patience but its fun too. Your husband will also need to let you reach orgasm first but first you will need to learn how to do it for yourself. A lot of it is mental, in other words you will have to be relaxed and fully turned on to get there. Masturbation's can be done together. There is no rule that intercourse has to happen at every intimate moment between the two of you. In fact men like the chase, on a subconscious level this will help your husband feel more like a man, if you tease him a little and it extends the lovemaking session. Explore what turns you both on, talk about fantasies and new things to try. Get a book or DVD on The Kuma Sutra, have fun and get adventurous pretty soon you will find what works for both of you and it will be a fun process of learning.
Good luck and happy humping, LOL :)19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
He should perform oral sex on you first to get things started (have him lick just around the clit at first and then move to licking and sucking on and around the clit later with a finger or two inside, but let him know if your clit gets too sensitive). Also don't be afraid to diddle yourself during intercourse. Have him on top to hit your G-Spot. Why can't he do it a 2nd time? I am 40 and I can do it a 2nd time with no problem, why can't he, he's young. You need to talk to him about it. If it were me, I would want to know if I could do better (and if he's a real man, he will listen). Just try to do it in a way that doesn't hurt his feelings, but it is definitely a sensitive subject, so good luck. Also, the idea of desensitizing condom or cream is not a bad idea.
First of all you have to let him know that you don't want to even have sex with him anymore because he's not satisfying you. This will hurt his ego. He's being really really selfish is he's only lasting 2-5 minutes. Tell him when he feels like he's gonna ';blow'; to stop, pull out, kiss your neck, add some foreplay, distract himself in some way, then when the urge is gone start up again. Over time he'll be able to do this without having to actually pull out. At the same time, you have to keep your mind off of everything except him, and the feeling your having. If you think to hard about it, it's not going to happen. Work your self up, have him talk dirty to you if that works. Think of something sexy about him or you, if it's his arms that are sexy then rub them and think of how sexy it is. Look at your selves in the mirror that can be a turn on to see your self. Relax and enjoy your orgasm, maybe even two or three... :)
sex takes time and practice. I don't think I really got to know myself or how to please men until about 21-22. Have you guys tried switching up the routine? try renting some pornos and acting out the scenes, thats a great way for you to try new stuff and to ';think outside of the box';. You could purchase sutra books and check out how people have sex in other parts of the world even. Make sure you are getting plenty of foreplay and stimulation, maybe play a game and tell him to tease you as long as possible until you are begging to continue. Sex is going to take time so be patient! he is young and it seems it takes a lot of men a while to learn how to control themselves (last longer) because he is so excited about sex right now. Make sure you are both communicating about how you feel about your sex life. Talks a bout sex (clothed) are very important to make sure you are both getting what you want and make sure you listen to his concerns too! Be delicate when approaching him about how long he goes, you don't want to damage his pride - that will shy him away even more in the bedroom. Good luck sweety, love each other every day and trust that if you love one another then you should be able to be a team when it comes to talking about %26amp; having sex. :)
You married someone that you are not attracted to. (I think that is problem #1) How are you supposed to be aroused by someone that you are not physically attracted to?
I thought that was the first thing that attracts you to someone is the physical.
But there doesn't seem like there is a lot of foreplay in the mix either. You might want to try some.
I can't orgasm unless I have my husband giving me oral sex and I have to use my vibrator to get there first. Then when I'm almost to that spot, I have him perform oral sex on me. Penetration alone won't get me there.
Edit: And it has NOTHING to do with you being married to young, don't listen to some of these people on here.
Tell him and talk to him about it.
When I first got with my husband he lasted so long..like 20-30 mins and it was great but nowadays he lasts 2 mins, to!! maybe 5 on a really good day.. I dont know whats up with that? Maybe because he used to jack off and now he dosnt anymore.
Anyways, I taunted and teased him about it..and hes started to take his time more : )
Talk to your man girl!
Get a mirror and explore your parts. Find out what feels good, and keep doing it. Start gently and figure out what you like, and the next time you make love, use your techniques on yourself and hopefully you will be able to get off before he does.
has he given you oral most always can have one with that. Also when your really excited get om top and you control the movment and the man can penetrate deeper and you can move the way you want to achieve an orgasm
maybe its you. maybe your a very cold woman. either that or your vagina is so loose you cant feel anything. whore! or heres an idea....dont marry a guy with a 2 inch wiener. or maybe hes not attracted to you anymore. 19? really? why are you married?
Buy a vibrator, and experiment. You will soon figure out what it is, and how to get there. Maybe you can use it together for greater intimacy.
He should give you oral, if he doesn't know how to do it maybe try a movie and learn that way.
By yourself get a vibrator....it won't take you long to figure that little friend out....it doesn't necessarily need to go inside.
have him perform fore play on you.that way you can get all worked up and hope you will then have an orgasm.ask him to perform oral on you,that should get you hot if he does it right.good luck.
To quote South Park ';Find the clitoris'; and then let your fingers do the walking.
Also, have him wear a condom (or two) so he can last longer, or tell him he needs to up the foreplay big time.
Where A desensitizing condom, durex has a good one, that should help him last longer. Have him finger you before sex so your already stimulated.
Stimulate the clit
It has nothing to do with age.. grrrr
Get rid of him or buy a vibrator
have a good play to make you very wet before he penetrate you
Maybe you shouldn't of got married at 18. Maybe your husband is just crap now you'll never know, well unless you want to be a 19 year old divorce
You got married too early.
email me....i can help
This is kinda embarrasing but im gonna ask it anyways!! I've never had an orgasm during sex.....any advice?
Im 20 years old and started having sex at 18 and have only been with one person my bf of 2 years. I never have an orgasm when we have sex, and its really starting to kill the enjoyment and excitement in it for both of us and he feels bad because he cant please me in that way.. but I can achieve an orgasm if I do it myself but not during sex...please does anyone have this problem...what can I do??This is kinda embarrasing but im gonna ask it anyways!! I've never had an orgasm during sex.....any advice?
He needs to stimulate your clitoris to get you off...most of the time, a woman cannot orgasm unless her clit is stimulated, either manually, orally, or with his penis.
You might wanna send him this link, it includes positions, techniques and an oral sex guide on how to make a woman orgasm: http://www.mistermanpower.net
It taught me how to make my girl orgasmThis is kinda embarrasing but im gonna ask it anyways!! I've never had an orgasm during sex.....any advice?
You need to spend more time practicing playing with yourself. When you know how to get yourself off, you can help your partner do the right things.Also, I suspect you have a hard time really relaxing. If you are stressing about anything during sex it may distract you from enjoying things, getting lost in the moment, and finding that place in your mind that allows you to ***.
me too ! not only that but tends to hurt. so almost like a chore to even have sex. when i was pregnant i had to have c-section due to small pelvis maybe has sumthing to do with it. its very painful for me to even get pap.
you can try women's health!
missionary, female on top.
I hate to say this but you got to fake it at one point in time
he's not doing something right!
try more foreplay, or try role playing.
ask this in women's health section. you will get better answers there.
Not all women can orgasm through sexual intercourse about 20% of women never have. You and your partner need to experiment together to make you orgasm. Try clitoral stimulation during sex it could bring on a vaginal orgasmlip liner
He needs to stimulate your clitoris to get you off...most of the time, a woman cannot orgasm unless her clit is stimulated, either manually, orally, or with his penis.
You might wanna send him this link, it includes positions, techniques and an oral sex guide on how to make a woman orgasm: http://www.mistermanpower.net
It taught me how to make my girl orgasmThis is kinda embarrasing but im gonna ask it anyways!! I've never had an orgasm during sex.....any advice?
You need to spend more time practicing playing with yourself. When you know how to get yourself off, you can help your partner do the right things.Also, I suspect you have a hard time really relaxing. If you are stressing about anything during sex it may distract you from enjoying things, getting lost in the moment, and finding that place in your mind that allows you to ***.
me too ! not only that but tends to hurt. so almost like a chore to even have sex. when i was pregnant i had to have c-section due to small pelvis maybe has sumthing to do with it. its very painful for me to even get pap.
you can try women's health!
missionary, female on top.
I hate to say this but you got to fake it at one point in time
he's not doing something right!
try more foreplay, or try role playing.
ask this in women's health section. you will get better answers there.
Not all women can orgasm through sexual intercourse about 20% of women never have. You and your partner need to experiment together to make you orgasm. Try clitoral stimulation during sex it could bring on a vaginal orgasm
I never enjoy sex or have orgasm what is it please help me need advice?
i have a boyfriend we have been 2gether for 4 yrs but the thing is i dont enjoy sex but i love him so much he is in my heart or is it because i never have orgasm is it possible but some times it can be good some times it changes why is this happeningI never enjoy sex or have orgasm what is it please help me need advice?
Girl u need to explore your body more! Figure out what u enjoy and tell old boy how u want it... Sex is gods little desert in the buffet we call life.. U should enjoy it!I never enjoy sex or have orgasm what is it please help me need advice?
it sounds like you had a bad experience in your past. When something hurts you during intercourse, it makes your mind think its going to hurt everytime. It can also cause problems with lubrication in the vagina. If I were you, I would go out and buy a play toy... something that would get you off...... its the MOST AMAZING feeling in the world!!!!
To start with slow down sweetheart. You seem to be rushing things. To have an orgasm is the sweetest part of love-making but, not the cat's meow so, don't take it to heart. Of course you want an orgasm, any woman would.
He may not know what's going on, most men don't. Being married for years and years doesn't a lover make so.
To start with, I'm assuming your in good health. Start with foreplay. This is where you and your lover kiss and interchange moves or touching, feeling, petting. Maybe he isn't getting you worked up enough. Some women take longer then others, when he finds out maybe he'll learn to go slow, take it easy.
You both don't have to ';come'; or have an orgasm together. If he's any kind of man he'll try and make you have one, even though he's finished, this would be the culmination of a perfect love match.
Don't ';get him going'; to soon, let him linger without the touchy, feely and use your hands somewhere else while he gets you going with the touching, feeling. The rubbing, tell him where it feels good, etc.
Get some porno movies, follow them like a guide, try it you might like it. Don't feel bad, a lot of women don't have a orgasm every time, some go an entire marriage without knowing what it is, it's too bad but ?
well, tell him to read means health magazines or menshealth.com! there are all kinds of articles that make you a badass in bed, a new one comes out like everyday on the internet trust me, read them for a couple of months and girls will think he invented the orgasm
keep going.
try a pineapple
youi both are not sexually comaptable or You both need take is slow and relax when it happens.
well, I hate to say it, if you love him, but he may not be very good in bed. Did you have any other experience besides him to compare with? If you've been with other partners and don't enjoy it with anyone, then you might consider going to a sex therapist and/or getting some sexual counseling and also must see a good gynecologist to see if there is any physical problem. if he is the only one you've ever been with, then either just go on as you have been and take your pleasure in being able to please him or, try someone else to see if he is the problem. Sex is a good thing and it is too bad not to be able to enjoy it.
I really think is due to ignorance.There is a lot of literature on this topic.Guide your b/f where you want touched until wet and let him no hurry,if hurry stop him carefully until ready to orgasm
you may need to explore your body
either alone or with your boyfriend
to find out how it works
and what brings your excitement up.
...either be specific why u don't enjoy it and what the differences are when it's good or bad...or u'll get a broad answer like: b/cause he's no good...add to the question...
relax?
You aren't compatable - if you can live with it then so be it but I bet he'll click on soon enough and realise that somethings wrong.
tell him what's going on, perhaps you both talking freely about it may allow you to relax and enjoy more.
Girl u need to explore your body more! Figure out what u enjoy and tell old boy how u want it... Sex is gods little desert in the buffet we call life.. U should enjoy it!I never enjoy sex or have orgasm what is it please help me need advice?
it sounds like you had a bad experience in your past. When something hurts you during intercourse, it makes your mind think its going to hurt everytime. It can also cause problems with lubrication in the vagina. If I were you, I would go out and buy a play toy... something that would get you off...... its the MOST AMAZING feeling in the world!!!!
To start with slow down sweetheart. You seem to be rushing things. To have an orgasm is the sweetest part of love-making but, not the cat's meow so, don't take it to heart. Of course you want an orgasm, any woman would.
He may not know what's going on, most men don't. Being married for years and years doesn't a lover make so.
To start with, I'm assuming your in good health. Start with foreplay. This is where you and your lover kiss and interchange moves or touching, feeling, petting. Maybe he isn't getting you worked up enough. Some women take longer then others, when he finds out maybe he'll learn to go slow, take it easy.
You both don't have to ';come'; or have an orgasm together. If he's any kind of man he'll try and make you have one, even though he's finished, this would be the culmination of a perfect love match.
Don't ';get him going'; to soon, let him linger without the touchy, feely and use your hands somewhere else while he gets you going with the touching, feeling. The rubbing, tell him where it feels good, etc.
Get some porno movies, follow them like a guide, try it you might like it. Don't feel bad, a lot of women don't have a orgasm every time, some go an entire marriage without knowing what it is, it's too bad but ?
well, tell him to read means health magazines or menshealth.com! there are all kinds of articles that make you a badass in bed, a new one comes out like everyday on the internet trust me, read them for a couple of months and girls will think he invented the orgasm
keep going.
try a pineapple
youi both are not sexually comaptable or You both need take is slow and relax when it happens.
well, I hate to say it, if you love him, but he may not be very good in bed. Did you have any other experience besides him to compare with? If you've been with other partners and don't enjoy it with anyone, then you might consider going to a sex therapist and/or getting some sexual counseling and also must see a good gynecologist to see if there is any physical problem. if he is the only one you've ever been with, then either just go on as you have been and take your pleasure in being able to please him or, try someone else to see if he is the problem. Sex is a good thing and it is too bad not to be able to enjoy it.
I really think is due to ignorance.There is a lot of literature on this topic.Guide your b/f where you want touched until wet and let him no hurry,if hurry stop him carefully until ready to orgasm
you may need to explore your body
either alone or with your boyfriend
to find out how it works
and what brings your excitement up.
...either be specific why u don't enjoy it and what the differences are when it's good or bad...or u'll get a broad answer like: b/cause he's no good...add to the question...
relax?
You aren't compatable - if you can live with it then so be it but I bet he'll click on soon enough and realise that somethings wrong.
tell him what's going on, perhaps you both talking freely about it may allow you to relax and enjoy more.
I'm 13 and want to know some good ways to orgasm without vibrators . Any advice?
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I am a married woman and I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? Any advice??
I have some strange questions for you. Most of it is about a condition most women don't talk about. Some of this may not apply:
Have you ever mastrabated? If no, then it isn't surprising that you won't have an orgasm as they don't come easily, you need to know how to use the muscles in your boby. Try running you privates under the bathtub facet.
Also, you probably won't have an orgasm if your husband enters you right away. It takes lots of foreplay. Making him live up to his responsabilities.
Finally, does it feel like you need to pee at anytime while you are masturbating or having sex? If so, read the following:
It is a normal feeling for many women (the pee feeling). The lucky women known when and orgasm is coming, but the unlucky women confuse it with the 'pee feeling' and out of fear of wetting themselves they stop, thus keeping themselves from having an orgasm.
Not too long ago women didn't have any places to go and get advice.
Remember, the 'pee feeling' is actually the 'orgasm-feeling'. You may release a bit of fluid, but this isn't pee. More likely than not you will just have a really good orgasm. But you first need to let go, allow the feeling to envelope you.
If you are afraid to do this while having sex, you can try it by yourself in the bath-tub or shower, just so that you will know what will happen and what it feels like. When you are in the shower, their is no need to worry about accidentally peeing.
Good luck.I am a married woman and I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? Any advice??
yes, its normal. some women just take longer than others......if you would like more info, please email me privately.....i understand your issue personally.I am a married woman and I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? Any advice??
Are you serious??? Get your man on hear to talk to me...LOL! Now...Seriously...I have never been able to have an orgasm while having sex and my husband thought it was all him and he was doing something wrong. Some women just can't have one that way. The only way I can is having oral sex. You need to have communication and tell hubby what feels good and what doesn't so he can learn how to please you. You can also spend some time in the shower if you aren't sure what you like and experiment on your own first. You also need to return the favor. A little bit of lovin' needs to go both ways so everyone is happy =)
Have you ever mastrabated? If no, then it isn't surprising that you won't have an orgasm as they don't come easily, you need to know how to use the muscles in your boby. Try running you privates under the bathtub facet.
Also, you probably won't have an orgasm if your husband enters you right away. It takes lots of foreplay. Making him live up to his responsabilities.
Finally, does it feel like you need to pee at anytime while you are masturbating or having sex? If so, read the following:
It is a normal feeling for many women (the pee feeling). The lucky women known when and orgasm is coming, but the unlucky women confuse it with the 'pee feeling' and out of fear of wetting themselves they stop, thus keeping themselves from having an orgasm.
Not too long ago women didn't have any places to go and get advice.
Remember, the 'pee feeling' is actually the 'orgasm-feeling'. You may release a bit of fluid, but this isn't pee. More likely than not you will just have a really good orgasm. But you first need to let go, allow the feeling to envelope you.
If you are afraid to do this while having sex, you can try it by yourself in the bath-tub or shower, just so that you will know what will happen and what it feels like. When you are in the shower, their is no need to worry about accidentally peeing.
Good luck.I am a married woman and I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? Any advice??
yes, its normal. some women just take longer than others......if you would like more info, please email me privately.....i understand your issue personally.I am a married woman and I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? Any advice??
Are you serious??? Get your man on hear to talk to me...LOL! Now...Seriously...I have never been able to have an orgasm while having sex and my husband thought it was all him and he was doing something wrong. Some women just can't have one that way. The only way I can is having oral sex. You need to have communication and tell hubby what feels good and what doesn't so he can learn how to please you. You can also spend some time in the shower if you aren't sure what you like and experiment on your own first. You also need to return the favor. A little bit of lovin' needs to go both ways so everyone is happy =)
Having trouble reaching orgasm from oral sex... any advice?
I love it when my SO goes down on me, but can never reach orgasm. He seems to view it as a failure even though I enjoyed it immensley. Do you have any tips for either me or him? Anything is helpful!Having trouble reaching orgasm from oral sex... any advice?
Well, first of all you have to relax. If you keep worrying about coming while he is doing it you never will. First you also need to get to know your own body. Do you masturbate regularly? You should, and make sure you figure out what you like and what gets you to come. Then, direct your bf on what to do to you, what you like. Too many people assume it is rude to do so, or that the bf will feel inadequate. All women are different, some like strong stimulation, some softer. Have him try pressure, cicular motion, up and down motion, and ever other possible movement on your clitoris. Some like it directly put to the clitoris, some like their labia licked. You will have to figure out for yourself and then guide him along.
Good luck, It took me quite a while too, But I have an awesome boyfriend now and he gave me my first one after others failed.Having trouble reaching orgasm from oral sex... any advice?
add other stuff to the oral sex ... eg. have him insert the index finger as far as it will go with the back of his hand on his chin ...curl the finger towards the back and caress the area that feels like the inside of a frissbee...it will blow your mind... for a change flip his palm around and go for the g spot at the front same location.. he can do this while doing oral or not ..
Try this.
You lie down on your bed with your head dangling at the side of your bed. Have him come to you naked. When he's close enough, grab his butt cheeks and thrust like crazy.
Not only is this incredibly sexy, he can control how hard he wants to thrust into your mouth.
Incredibly hot.
3-somes help...
there are alot of books and stuff on that but i can offer u one in partifular........if there is a Spencer's near by go there and they will have a book called....100 ways to great Orgasms.......and its a really good book and very detailed and educational and of course erotic. hope it helps
Let him figure at same time. Really works
Practice makes perfect.
I can think of nothing better than ';practicing'; that, lol
stick his tongue in deeper
Quick anatomy lesson. At the upper end of the vaginal opening and inside the labia, there is the urethra, and the clitoris. As the clit is stimulated, it becomes erect, like the male penis. There is a hood over the clit and until and unless this hood is pulled back, stimulation is tough to do.
I recommend that the first thing you do, is manually stimulate yourself, locate the clit, and see what it takes to make you have an orgasm.
Then, while your being orally stimulated, TALK to him and direct him so he can concentrate on that one spot that you know makes the world spin for you.
Hey, every ones body is slightly different, all the parts are the same, but you have to figure out what works for you, and pass that on to him. He will thank you for it, you will enjoy it so much more and will build his ego up because he was able to bring you to satisfaction.
Maybe if he used his hand as well as his mouth the double stimulation would help.
Here's a guaranteed way for you to have an orgasm or 2......Spend the night with me.
you know makes sense
x
Do you feel like you are getting close to the big O , if so, Have him insert a finger in your rectum right when it feels it might happen, you need to tell him when,,, AND it works every time !!!!!!!!
try to relax, tell him what feels the best, more clitoral stimulation,
have you tried toys, or pleasuring each other at the same time, just experiment with different positions, and toys. just communication and practice is the best answer, if he has the patience and is willing to keep doing it until he gets it right then practice, practice practice
have him try different pressures or different speeds. My husband has to be on the right spot for me to have orgasm. Make sure your guy doesn't feel like he is a failure tell him how good it was.
Throw your vibrator down there.
Man, I could have an orgasm from THINKING ABOUT oral sex!
Well, first of all you have to relax. If you keep worrying about coming while he is doing it you never will. First you also need to get to know your own body. Do you masturbate regularly? You should, and make sure you figure out what you like and what gets you to come. Then, direct your bf on what to do to you, what you like. Too many people assume it is rude to do so, or that the bf will feel inadequate. All women are different, some like strong stimulation, some softer. Have him try pressure, cicular motion, up and down motion, and ever other possible movement on your clitoris. Some like it directly put to the clitoris, some like their labia licked. You will have to figure out for yourself and then guide him along.
Good luck, It took me quite a while too, But I have an awesome boyfriend now and he gave me my first one after others failed.Having trouble reaching orgasm from oral sex... any advice?
add other stuff to the oral sex ... eg. have him insert the index finger as far as it will go with the back of his hand on his chin ...curl the finger towards the back and caress the area that feels like the inside of a frissbee...it will blow your mind... for a change flip his palm around and go for the g spot at the front same location.. he can do this while doing oral or not ..
Try this.
You lie down on your bed with your head dangling at the side of your bed. Have him come to you naked. When he's close enough, grab his butt cheeks and thrust like crazy.
Not only is this incredibly sexy, he can control how hard he wants to thrust into your mouth.
Incredibly hot.
3-somes help...
there are alot of books and stuff on that but i can offer u one in partifular........if there is a Spencer's near by go there and they will have a book called....100 ways to great Orgasms.......and its a really good book and very detailed and educational and of course erotic. hope it helps
Let him figure at same time. Really works
Practice makes perfect.
I can think of nothing better than ';practicing'; that, lol
stick his tongue in deeper
Quick anatomy lesson. At the upper end of the vaginal opening and inside the labia, there is the urethra, and the clitoris. As the clit is stimulated, it becomes erect, like the male penis. There is a hood over the clit and until and unless this hood is pulled back, stimulation is tough to do.
I recommend that the first thing you do, is manually stimulate yourself, locate the clit, and see what it takes to make you have an orgasm.
Then, while your being orally stimulated, TALK to him and direct him so he can concentrate on that one spot that you know makes the world spin for you.
Hey, every ones body is slightly different, all the parts are the same, but you have to figure out what works for you, and pass that on to him. He will thank you for it, you will enjoy it so much more and will build his ego up because he was able to bring you to satisfaction.
Maybe if he used his hand as well as his mouth the double stimulation would help.
Here's a guaranteed way for you to have an orgasm or 2......Spend the night with me.
you know makes sense
x
Do you feel like you are getting close to the big O , if so, Have him insert a finger in your rectum right when it feels it might happen, you need to tell him when,,, AND it works every time !!!!!!!!
try to relax, tell him what feels the best, more clitoral stimulation,
have you tried toys, or pleasuring each other at the same time, just experiment with different positions, and toys. just communication and practice is the best answer, if he has the patience and is willing to keep doing it until he gets it right then practice, practice practice
have him try different pressures or different speeds. My husband has to be on the right spot for me to have orgasm. Make sure your guy doesn't feel like he is a failure tell him how good it was.
Throw your vibrator down there.
Man, I could have an orgasm from THINKING ABOUT oral sex!
Sexual Problem: I am unable to achieve orgasm-I need serious advice, please?
As embarrassing as this question is, I desperately need advice, and any helpful tips will be greatly appreciated.
I have been married for seven years. My husband and I have a good relationship. I am still attracted to him, and he to me. We still have sex fairly frequently--the intimacy is wonderful; I enjoy the closeness, the foreplay.
My biggest problem (and one that causes me desperation) is the fact that I can no longer have an orgasm. I used to have wonderful orgasms and felt very fulfilled after sex. Now, during sex, I get very close to orgasm, and then, suddenly, the feeling is lost. I have faked my climaxes since the birth of our youngest son three years ago.
When this first happened, I told my husband, and he got very upset with me. He said it made him feel ';inadequate';, made him feel that he couldn't satisfy me. So...rather than have an argument, I have faked for three years.
Can anyone advise me on how to reach orgasm once more?Sexual Problem: I am unable to achieve orgasm-I need serious advice, please?
I'm not too sure what to say.
Ive had the same problem on and off for a bit lately (I haven't had a child though) I found that If I concentrate on it too much I cant get off, which really sucks heaps!
But maybe try a bit more foreplay. We have and it worked a few times.
Sometimes it just doesn't happen! And its the WORST FEELING EVER!
I hate it when It happens to me.
If your still overly concerned maybe see a gyno. Not the nicest thing to be advised to do, But it could really help you and your partner our. It would be like you never saw the doctor and go back to having REAL orgasms :)
Hope this helps!Sexual Problem: I am unable to achieve orgasm-I need serious advice, please?
I believe that climaxing and achieving a orgasm is a state of mind. Maybe you Skye yourself out right at the end...Is your mind wondering during sex? Are you thinking of the kids...errands that need to be done...that sort of stuff? Next time you and your husband are having sex...tell yourself ahead of time that you ARE gonna orgasm...and when it gets to that lovely point...focus like you have never focused before...sometimes it may work...Good luck.
You should go see a doctor. When you have a child it can change the shape of you and your hormone levels can change as well making it harder if not impossible to reach climax. That included with the stress you have from thinking about it can make things worse. They have exercises, medications, and mental help. Good luck
You could have a few things going on here. First off, are you on any medications? Some, especially anti-depressants can cause that. (been there, done that and it was very frustrating). The second thing is, can you orgasm when you are by yourself. If you can than its not physical. At this point, you probably have so much stress about it it's negatively impacting whether you can or not. Remember most women cannot achieve orgasm just from penetration. How about oral? How about using your/his hands to help stimulate? Consider your home life also. Are the kids making it stressful and distracting you? Do you relax and have fun in the bedroom? toys, lingerie, movies, role playing, etc? There are a lot of things for you to check out before you know which one is the problem. I would rule the physical out first. Good luck.
I have been married for seven years. My husband and I have a good relationship. I am still attracted to him, and he to me. We still have sex fairly frequently--the intimacy is wonderful; I enjoy the closeness, the foreplay.
My biggest problem (and one that causes me desperation) is the fact that I can no longer have an orgasm. I used to have wonderful orgasms and felt very fulfilled after sex. Now, during sex, I get very close to orgasm, and then, suddenly, the feeling is lost. I have faked my climaxes since the birth of our youngest son three years ago.
When this first happened, I told my husband, and he got very upset with me. He said it made him feel ';inadequate';, made him feel that he couldn't satisfy me. So...rather than have an argument, I have faked for three years.
Can anyone advise me on how to reach orgasm once more?Sexual Problem: I am unable to achieve orgasm-I need serious advice, please?
I'm not too sure what to say.
Ive had the same problem on and off for a bit lately (I haven't had a child though) I found that If I concentrate on it too much I cant get off, which really sucks heaps!
But maybe try a bit more foreplay. We have and it worked a few times.
Sometimes it just doesn't happen! And its the WORST FEELING EVER!
I hate it when It happens to me.
If your still overly concerned maybe see a gyno. Not the nicest thing to be advised to do, But it could really help you and your partner our. It would be like you never saw the doctor and go back to having REAL orgasms :)
Hope this helps!Sexual Problem: I am unable to achieve orgasm-I need serious advice, please?
I believe that climaxing and achieving a orgasm is a state of mind. Maybe you Skye yourself out right at the end...Is your mind wondering during sex? Are you thinking of the kids...errands that need to be done...that sort of stuff? Next time you and your husband are having sex...tell yourself ahead of time that you ARE gonna orgasm...and when it gets to that lovely point...focus like you have never focused before...sometimes it may work...Good luck.
You should go see a doctor. When you have a child it can change the shape of you and your hormone levels can change as well making it harder if not impossible to reach climax. That included with the stress you have from thinking about it can make things worse. They have exercises, medications, and mental help. Good luck
You could have a few things going on here. First off, are you on any medications? Some, especially anti-depressants can cause that. (been there, done that and it was very frustrating). The second thing is, can you orgasm when you are by yourself. If you can than its not physical. At this point, you probably have so much stress about it it's negatively impacting whether you can or not. Remember most women cannot achieve orgasm just from penetration. How about oral? How about using your/his hands to help stimulate? Consider your home life also. Are the kids making it stressful and distracting you? Do you relax and have fun in the bedroom? toys, lingerie, movies, role playing, etc? There are a lot of things for you to check out before you know which one is the problem. I would rule the physical out first. Good luck.
I cant seem to have an orgasm please help, need advice?
I am 17 almost 18 and have been sexually active sadly since i was 14. I have been in a relationship for 2 years june 10th(9 days), My Fiance is 20 going on 21. We have been sexually active through out or 2 years very extensively. We reached a point where it was 3 times a day for months. And through out all this time i havent been able to have an orgasm with him or any of my previous partners. I had an orgasm 3 times only with me on top rubbing a certain way but havent been lucky since. I do not know how to masturbate sadly and have tried soooo many times but that was a failure too. Its gotten to me so much of not reaching a climax ever it has ultimatley taken a toll on my moods and how i act. I guess im a wits end. And i know my partener is just as upset about this recent news as am i. I did lie for 2 years saying i did when i didnt only because i thought if every time we had sex and he asked me i said no it would hurt him more. I really need some advice, can anyone help or offer any?I cant seem to have an orgasm please help, need advice?
Everyone is different. My wife can only get off with direct stimulation. Sometimes this means that she has to ';push'; the right buttons to get hers. Keep trying and figure out what works for you. Talk to your man and let him know what is going on. Let him know that it is not him and that you just need to figure yourself out. If you keep hiding it from him it will only make it worse. Talk to your GYN and make sure that everything is working as it should. Good luck.I cant seem to have an orgasm please help, need advice?
First of all you need to relax and maybe you should consider bringing a toy into the bedroom (or basement) and you definitely need to learn how to masterbate, the first time I masterbated it took me two and a half hours to reach orgasm you need to find out what really feels good to you and keep doing it until you orgasm.
Well I think that having an orgasm is mostly even a mental thing. I mean if you think about it to much you'll never get one. Try to be more relaxed... being on top really helps. Just try to feel sexy , relaxed and you control everything should be ok. But if you are really concerned then see a doctor and explain your problem!
well every woman is different the most i have had was 13 one whole day, but i think its much harder to have one when you are so busy thinkin about trying to have one so just relax.
GURL JUST LET HIM BEAT IT UP *** MUCH AS HE AN UNTIL IT FEELS LIKE YOUR LEG MIGHT BREAK, TILL YOU CAN'T TAKE IT NO MORE, AND IF YOU THINK IT HURTS JUST KEEP GOING AND YOU WILL COME GURL BUT THAT HOW I MADE MYSELF COME
its a sin to have sex before marriage
First of all u should try a good sex toy. Mabey a small vibe or egg. Try it solo first and then mabey have him join in. Many women cannot achieve orgasm from vaginal sex alone. Have you tried oral sex? Do you participate in foreplay? Most women achieve orgasm through foreplay and then it makes having one during sex easier. You body becomes aroused and makes your nerve endings more sensitive. Some guys just want to jump right into it and do not spend the time focusing on the woman first. This will not work!!!! Trust me!!!! A woman's body is much different than a man's. You have to work at reaching orgasm and he has to help you....NOTE: Please remember to practice safe sex. Abstidence is the safest, but if you are going to be sexually active take the precautions neccessary to protect yourself. 1 out of every five individuals has herpes. There is no cure for herpes. There is no cure for Aids either. HPV causes cancer. Don't risk it. Use protection. Good luck!!!!
Have you tried giving it a rest for a few couple of weeks then maybe trying a bit of foreplay to work yourself in to a frenzy sounds like your worn out you need to explore each other what you both like Orgasm to me seems a myth. I get a sudden rush to the head during sex but not all the time it varys on the woman i suppose
Hope this helps
Plenty of foreplay and lube and I'm sure you'll get there in the end
Hope this helpslip liner
Everyone is different. My wife can only get off with direct stimulation. Sometimes this means that she has to ';push'; the right buttons to get hers. Keep trying and figure out what works for you. Talk to your man and let him know what is going on. Let him know that it is not him and that you just need to figure yourself out. If you keep hiding it from him it will only make it worse. Talk to your GYN and make sure that everything is working as it should. Good luck.I cant seem to have an orgasm please help, need advice?
First of all you need to relax and maybe you should consider bringing a toy into the bedroom (or basement) and you definitely need to learn how to masterbate, the first time I masterbated it took me two and a half hours to reach orgasm you need to find out what really feels good to you and keep doing it until you orgasm.
Well I think that having an orgasm is mostly even a mental thing. I mean if you think about it to much you'll never get one. Try to be more relaxed... being on top really helps. Just try to feel sexy , relaxed and you control everything should be ok. But if you are really concerned then see a doctor and explain your problem!
well every woman is different the most i have had was 13 one whole day, but i think its much harder to have one when you are so busy thinkin about trying to have one so just relax.
GURL JUST LET HIM BEAT IT UP *** MUCH AS HE AN UNTIL IT FEELS LIKE YOUR LEG MIGHT BREAK, TILL YOU CAN'T TAKE IT NO MORE, AND IF YOU THINK IT HURTS JUST KEEP GOING AND YOU WILL COME GURL BUT THAT HOW I MADE MYSELF COME
its a sin to have sex before marriage
First of all u should try a good sex toy. Mabey a small vibe or egg. Try it solo first and then mabey have him join in. Many women cannot achieve orgasm from vaginal sex alone. Have you tried oral sex? Do you participate in foreplay? Most women achieve orgasm through foreplay and then it makes having one during sex easier. You body becomes aroused and makes your nerve endings more sensitive. Some guys just want to jump right into it and do not spend the time focusing on the woman first. This will not work!!!! Trust me!!!! A woman's body is much different than a man's. You have to work at reaching orgasm and he has to help you....NOTE: Please remember to practice safe sex. Abstidence is the safest, but if you are going to be sexually active take the precautions neccessary to protect yourself. 1 out of every five individuals has herpes. There is no cure for herpes. There is no cure for Aids either. HPV causes cancer. Don't risk it. Use protection. Good luck!!!!
Have you tried giving it a rest for a few couple of weeks then maybe trying a bit of foreplay to work yourself in to a frenzy sounds like your worn out you need to explore each other what you both like Orgasm to me seems a myth. I get a sudden rush to the head during sex but not all the time it varys on the woman i suppose
Hope this helps
Plenty of foreplay and lube and I'm sure you'll get there in the end
Hope this helps
I have great sex, but I just can't have an orgasm...please give me some advice?
I'm 15 years old, but i've been having sex sinc ei was 12 ( i kno i kno it sounds gross) anyway when i have sex it feels really good nd all but i just can't have an orgasm. i dont want my boyfriend thinking theres something wrong with me.. i mean he's really good in bed. please give me some advice.any would help!!!I have great sex, but I just can't have an orgasm...please give me some advice?
Try the girl on top position and grind your hips back and forth while hes inside u. the back and forth motion should rly stimulate your g-spot. ive had some rly intense orgasms doing that with my bf : D
I have great sex, but I just can't have an orgasm...please give me some advice?
Don't feel bad girl its plenty women out here like that and i'm one of them. My ex was really really great in bed but i never had an orgasm during intercourse. Everyone is different. I can make myself have an orgasm by using a vibrator on my clit and rubbing it up and down. It might be mental you have to relax when u have sex and not worry about nothing but how good it feels and just release. You could also use a vibrator while your having sex if your boyfriend doesn't mind.
yea i will say like everone else-your to YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
anyway try rubbing your self down there on your clit and you will for sure have one you will no when you do believe me.lolol alos if you dont want o do that then get a vibrator and use that. im 40yr old and when i have intercoruse i dont get off either some people r just different .have him go down on you and see what happens hope all works out.you have alot o=f time and your whole life ahead of you and let it take its course my friend....
you need a boy friend who is not good but who is exceptional so that he can take you there , so find him and be there ,
You need a good lover %26amp; experiment/ explore! Sandy had a great idea as well...now I'm hot!
Try the girl on top position and grind your hips back and forth while hes inside u. the back and forth motion should rly stimulate your g-spot. ive had some rly intense orgasms doing that with my bf : D
I have great sex, but I just can't have an orgasm...please give me some advice?
Don't feel bad girl its plenty women out here like that and i'm one of them. My ex was really really great in bed but i never had an orgasm during intercourse. Everyone is different. I can make myself have an orgasm by using a vibrator on my clit and rubbing it up and down. It might be mental you have to relax when u have sex and not worry about nothing but how good it feels and just release. You could also use a vibrator while your having sex if your boyfriend doesn't mind.
yea i will say like everone else-your to YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
anyway try rubbing your self down there on your clit and you will for sure have one you will no when you do believe me.lolol alos if you dont want o do that then get a vibrator and use that. im 40yr old and when i have intercoruse i dont get off either some people r just different .have him go down on you and see what happens hope all works out.you have alot o=f time and your whole life ahead of you and let it take its course my friend....
you need a boy friend who is not good but who is exceptional so that he can take you there , so find him and be there ,
You need a good lover %26amp; experiment/ explore! Sandy had a great idea as well...now I'm hot!
I am 20 year old woman and I cant orgasm. Give Me Some Advice!?
I cant orgasm and its making me crazy! When me and my fiance first got together, we were like 2 jackrabbits. Now, I feel like my 80 year old grandparents. He works offshore 7 and 7 and when he is in, I am lucky if I get it 3 times that whole week. He works his *** off offshore so when he is home, he is so drained! We have a GREAT relationship! We both changed physically but in a positive way! We have always been satisfied with one another. He tells me everyday how beautiful I am, so I know he has not lost interest in me @ all. I want our sex life to be more spontaneous %26amp; interesting! What can I do as a woman? I am not blaming my lack of orgasmic activity on him but when we do have sex, it takes for ever for me to reach a orgasm. For him, it only take mins. I know sex does not make the relationship, but he is my fiance so it is not only sex. Its like a bonding time for me and him! I love him and I want to spice up our sex life but what can I do? I need some ideas! Please Help!
ThxI am 20 year old woman and I cant orgasm. Give Me Some Advice!?
He needs to develop control of his orgasms so he can last longer. He'll enjoy it more too. Check out the first article below for him.
You need to learn more about your body so you can teach him how to bring you to orgasm. Check out the second article for you. Once you become adept at bringing yourself to orgasm, you'll be able to communicate it to him.I am 20 year old woman and I cant orgasm. Give Me Some Advice!?
foreplay. make him give u oral for a long time before he puts it in u. try and get him to hit the right spot. have him tease u for a while until u have to have it. that will get u off for sure
masturbate on your own....get a toy if you need to. then when you're with him...help yourself along at that right moment.
a trick that men love is to have him in you and repeatedly squeeze and release him. to learn how to do this....when you are peeing, stop the stream and let it start again. this is the same muscle. the faster you can do this the better. it'll blow his mind.
unless there is something medically wrong with you, i.e. a hooded clitoris, the fact that you don't have an orgasm may be him. does he know where your buttons are? do you know where your buttons are? unlike men, women have to learn how to have an orgasm. practice masturbation techniques when he is not with you. i would also think that the foreplay is not lasting long enough to properly prepare you. rent some XXX movies for the next time he is home. unplug the phone, lock the doors and spend the day naked together, no clothes allowed. educate yourself on different positions. sex isn't everything but it is a big thing when it comes to lasting relationships. a man that knows that he can not help his partner achieve orgasm may feel inadequate in bed and would want to avoid sex. if you can't get a handle on it seek professional help. i know it seems as though this should be the most natural thing in the world but you would be surprised how many people have this same problem.
p.s. i would also advise you to fake it until you learn how to make it,
I sometimes have a similar problem with my husband. You can chalk this one up to women and men are wired differently. a man who has not had it very often when stimulated goes almost right away. A woman who has not had it for a while will take longer to warm up. The more you are together and think and talk to each other more in tune with each other you become. When you are away fro a while the gap becomes greater
you all can ask your spouse and i would like to help you orgasm
You need to get a vibrator and use it when you are having sex. I used to be the same way because I wasn't getting any clitoral stimulation believe me it works like a charm
You can also ask him what type of things he would like, but make sure that you find out what turns you on also.
You have to know your body and what turns you on, when he is away do some exploring on your body you will find out how easliy it will be for you to get turned on.
Also go for more foreplay it's very important
o girl..that does suck..try some foreplay to spice things up and try and have him on top get into it and think of sexy thoughts it may help
Being satisfied has everythingto do with a relationship. If u r not satisfied you need to let your man know what is is that is lacking. COMMUNICATE!!!!! Tell him exactly what you want and need as a woman to be satisfied. You are engaged...this shouldn't be a hard thing to do. Once you and your man begin to talk and express to one another what you like to do in bed and different ways to spice things up you won't be needing anyone elses adviise...things will come naturally and you will probably be satisfied before the conversation is over.
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I think he may have to start getting you to orgasm orally before he does his thing with you. Even though its not the same as getting off together at least you will be orgasm each time you have sex with him. Maybe he could get some of that numbing jel and rub on his tally wacker before sex....it is for numbing the penis......I could go for ever with that stuff....lol Good Luck
Relax and enjoy the moment. Maybe you are thinking too much about coming. Also let him know. There are so many things out there for you and him to try. Search the web thats a start.
ThxI am 20 year old woman and I cant orgasm. Give Me Some Advice!?
He needs to develop control of his orgasms so he can last longer. He'll enjoy it more too. Check out the first article below for him.
You need to learn more about your body so you can teach him how to bring you to orgasm. Check out the second article for you. Once you become adept at bringing yourself to orgasm, you'll be able to communicate it to him.I am 20 year old woman and I cant orgasm. Give Me Some Advice!?
foreplay. make him give u oral for a long time before he puts it in u. try and get him to hit the right spot. have him tease u for a while until u have to have it. that will get u off for sure
masturbate on your own....get a toy if you need to. then when you're with him...help yourself along at that right moment.
a trick that men love is to have him in you and repeatedly squeeze and release him. to learn how to do this....when you are peeing, stop the stream and let it start again. this is the same muscle. the faster you can do this the better. it'll blow his mind.
unless there is something medically wrong with you, i.e. a hooded clitoris, the fact that you don't have an orgasm may be him. does he know where your buttons are? do you know where your buttons are? unlike men, women have to learn how to have an orgasm. practice masturbation techniques when he is not with you. i would also think that the foreplay is not lasting long enough to properly prepare you. rent some XXX movies for the next time he is home. unplug the phone, lock the doors and spend the day naked together, no clothes allowed. educate yourself on different positions. sex isn't everything but it is a big thing when it comes to lasting relationships. a man that knows that he can not help his partner achieve orgasm may feel inadequate in bed and would want to avoid sex. if you can't get a handle on it seek professional help. i know it seems as though this should be the most natural thing in the world but you would be surprised how many people have this same problem.
p.s. i would also advise you to fake it until you learn how to make it,
I sometimes have a similar problem with my husband. You can chalk this one up to women and men are wired differently. a man who has not had it very often when stimulated goes almost right away. A woman who has not had it for a while will take longer to warm up. The more you are together and think and talk to each other more in tune with each other you become. When you are away fro a while the gap becomes greater
you all can ask your spouse and i would like to help you orgasm
You need to get a vibrator and use it when you are having sex. I used to be the same way because I wasn't getting any clitoral stimulation believe me it works like a charm
You can also ask him what type of things he would like, but make sure that you find out what turns you on also.
You have to know your body and what turns you on, when he is away do some exploring on your body you will find out how easliy it will be for you to get turned on.
Also go for more foreplay it's very important
o girl..that does suck..try some foreplay to spice things up and try and have him on top get into it and think of sexy thoughts it may help
Being satisfied has everythingto do with a relationship. If u r not satisfied you need to let your man know what is is that is lacking. COMMUNICATE!!!!! Tell him exactly what you want and need as a woman to be satisfied. You are engaged...this shouldn't be a hard thing to do. Once you and your man begin to talk and express to one another what you like to do in bed and different ways to spice things up you won't be needing anyone elses adviise...things will come naturally and you will probably be satisfied before the conversation is over.
VIBRATOR...VIBRATOR...VIBRATOR...
I think he may have to start getting you to orgasm orally before he does his thing with you. Even though its not the same as getting off together at least you will be orgasm each time you have sex with him. Maybe he could get some of that numbing jel and rub on his tally wacker before sex....it is for numbing the penis......I could go for ever with that stuff....lol Good Luck
Relax and enjoy the moment. Maybe you are thinking too much about coming. Also let him know. There are so many things out there for you and him to try. Search the web thats a start.
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