I can't get an orgasm Need some advice please because no matter what i do i cant?

Used a vibrator and I read a book on how to have an orgasm and Have done everything possible and its been 4 months since i had an orgasm. I'm starting to feel like i will never get one again. What can i do?I can't get an orgasm Need some advice please because no matter what i do i cant?
the best way for some women to reach their climax and have their orgasm, is if you have a partner.


you need time to be together and relaxed.





you lay on bed , he/she lays beside you and sucks your nipples, and with lube if necessary, plays with clitoris.


if clitoris is too sensitive to touch directly, then around the sides or through its covering hood will feel better.





if your nipples are sucked and clitoris played with for around 20 mins, some times quicker, sometimes longer, you should feel aroused, and experience involuntary hip movements. like you do when having sex .





if stimulation is increased as you are able to take it, and fingers can go into vagina at this stage, you should feel yourself getting very close and moving your hips and vaginal area a lot.


then it should build to your sexual peak, and then your vagina will clench rhythmically 5 or 6 times as you orgasm.


after that you will feel like you need to relax, as you come down from your high.


you may experience a few aftershocks, jerks quivering , toe curling, legs going rigid.


its different every time, and varies in intensity for different woman and circumstances.


website below may give more info...........I can't get an orgasm Need some advice please because no matter what i do i cant?
Awww, thay sucks! I am sorry for you.


I think so much of not orgasming for women is psychological - we have been conditioned to think of sex as ';sinful';, and to think of ourselves as pure only if we are unsexual (and if we are sexual, to think of that as dirty). Begin by evaluating your attitudes towards your sexuality - do you embrace it as something that is healthy and can be wholesome and beautiful? Do you feel that it's dirty and wrong? A lot of women's orgasmic hang-ups stem from underlying issues like these.


I think the first thing to do is to embrace your sexuality as a beautiful part of you, and something that is fun, wholesome, and loving, not dirty, kinky, or something that has to be done in secret.


If you've already come to the point where you feel comfortable and safe with your body in that way, then I would say that fantasy can be a powerful ally for you. Imagine a loving, passionate situation, and imagine taking yourself out on a great ';date.';! Lock your door, play some romantic music, light some candles, have the bed be made up with clean sheets - I mean, really make it nice. Then start with yourself SLOWLY. Let your fantasy take over, and the idea that you're on a loving, passionate self-love (or whoever you want to think about) date. I think this might help. It has helped friends of mine who were in a similar situation, and it has helped me.
if you find an answer to this, i would love to know.


i've been sexually active for 3 years, and done a LOT of different things, by myself and with a partner, and i have NEVER had one.


:(
sometimes you only get it once a life.





Sorry.
you prolly have to use it longer... until it hurts then stop.
i think a good idea would be to have sex.