19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?

I am not all that attracted to my husband nowadays but that is because sex is so retarded now. He only lasts 2 minutes.... sometimes 5 when I'm on top but it's not enjoyable 5 minutes... I have never had an orgasm and I was wondering if you had any tips on how, whether with him or by myself???19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
This is normal. You are young and just learning how your body works, don't worry. If you are not enjoying sex you will need to be adventurous. Your husband needs to masturbate more this will help him learn too control and allow him to last longer when he is having intercourse with you. Masturbation is a very healthy and a much needed thing for men. Soon he will learn how to ease up if he is getting to overly stimulated, sometimes it requires thinking about baseball or something unrelated to sex while having intercourse so that he can relax and let you catch up. You should try a vibrator ( for clitoral stimulating) and learn how your body works and how to reach orgasm, this will take time and patience but its fun too. Your husband will also need to let you reach orgasm first but first you will need to learn how to do it for yourself. A lot of it is mental, in other words you will have to be relaxed and fully turned on to get there. Masturbation's can be done together. There is no rule that intercourse has to happen at every intimate moment between the two of you. In fact men like the chase, on a subconscious level this will help your husband feel more like a man, if you tease him a little and it extends the lovemaking session. Explore what turns you both on, talk about fantasies and new things to try. Get a book or DVD on The Kuma Sutra, have fun and get adventurous pretty soon you will find what works for both of you and it will be a fun process of learning.





Good luck and happy humping, LOL :)19 and never had an orgasm.... married over a year..... please someone give me advice?
He should perform oral sex on you first to get things started (have him lick just around the clit at first and then move to licking and sucking on and around the clit later with a finger or two inside, but let him know if your clit gets too sensitive). Also don't be afraid to diddle yourself during intercourse. Have him on top to hit your G-Spot. Why can't he do it a 2nd time? I am 40 and I can do it a 2nd time with no problem, why can't he, he's young. You need to talk to him about it. If it were me, I would want to know if I could do better (and if he's a real man, he will listen). Just try to do it in a way that doesn't hurt his feelings, but it is definitely a sensitive subject, so good luck. Also, the idea of desensitizing condom or cream is not a bad idea.
First of all you have to let him know that you don't want to even have sex with him anymore because he's not satisfying you. This will hurt his ego. He's being really really selfish is he's only lasting 2-5 minutes. Tell him when he feels like he's gonna ';blow'; to stop, pull out, kiss your neck, add some foreplay, distract himself in some way, then when the urge is gone start up again. Over time he'll be able to do this without having to actually pull out. At the same time, you have to keep your mind off of everything except him, and the feeling your having. If you think to hard about it, it's not going to happen. Work your self up, have him talk dirty to you if that works. Think of something sexy about him or you, if it's his arms that are sexy then rub them and think of how sexy it is. Look at your selves in the mirror that can be a turn on to see your self. Relax and enjoy your orgasm, maybe even two or three... :)
sex takes time and practice. I don't think I really got to know myself or how to please men until about 21-22. Have you guys tried switching up the routine? try renting some pornos and acting out the scenes, thats a great way for you to try new stuff and to ';think outside of the box';. You could purchase sutra books and check out how people have sex in other parts of the world even. Make sure you are getting plenty of foreplay and stimulation, maybe play a game and tell him to tease you as long as possible until you are begging to continue. Sex is going to take time so be patient! he is young and it seems it takes a lot of men a while to learn how to control themselves (last longer) because he is so excited about sex right now. Make sure you are both communicating about how you feel about your sex life. Talks a bout sex (clothed) are very important to make sure you are both getting what you want and make sure you listen to his concerns too! Be delicate when approaching him about how long he goes, you don't want to damage his pride - that will shy him away even more in the bedroom. Good luck sweety, love each other every day and trust that if you love one another then you should be able to be a team when it comes to talking about %26amp; having sex. :)
You married someone that you are not attracted to. (I think that is problem #1) How are you supposed to be aroused by someone that you are not physically attracted to?





I thought that was the first thing that attracts you to someone is the physical.





But there doesn't seem like there is a lot of foreplay in the mix either. You might want to try some.
I can't orgasm unless I have my husband giving me oral sex and I have to use my vibrator to get there first. Then when I'm almost to that spot, I have him perform oral sex on me. Penetration alone won't get me there.





Edit: And it has NOTHING to do with you being married to young, don't listen to some of these people on here.
Tell him and talk to him about it.


When I first got with my husband he lasted so long..like 20-30 mins and it was great but nowadays he lasts 2 mins, to!! maybe 5 on a really good day.. I dont know whats up with that? Maybe because he used to jack off and now he dosnt anymore.


Anyways, I taunted and teased him about it..and hes started to take his time more : )


Talk to your man girl!
Get a mirror and explore your parts. Find out what feels good, and keep doing it. Start gently and figure out what you like, and the next time you make love, use your techniques on yourself and hopefully you will be able to get off before he does.
has he given you oral most always can have one with that. Also when your really excited get om top and you control the movment and the man can penetrate deeper and you can move the way you want to achieve an orgasm
maybe its you. maybe your a very cold woman. either that or your vagina is so loose you cant feel anything. whore! or heres an idea....dont marry a guy with a 2 inch wiener. or maybe hes not attracted to you anymore. 19? really? why are you married?
Buy a vibrator, and experiment. You will soon figure out what it is, and how to get there. Maybe you can use it together for greater intimacy.
He should give you oral, if he doesn't know how to do it maybe try a movie and learn that way.





By yourself get a vibrator....it won't take you long to figure that little friend out....it doesn't necessarily need to go inside.
have him perform fore play on you.that way you can get all worked up and hope you will then have an orgasm.ask him to perform oral on you,that should get you hot if he does it right.good luck.
To quote South Park ';Find the clitoris'; and then let your fingers do the walking.


Also, have him wear a condom (or two) so he can last longer, or tell him he needs to up the foreplay big time.
Where A desensitizing condom, durex has a good one, that should help him last longer. Have him finger you before sex so your already stimulated.
Stimulate the clit
It has nothing to do with age.. grrrr





Get rid of him or buy a vibrator
have a good play to make you very wet before he penetrate you
Maybe you shouldn't of got married at 18. Maybe your husband is just crap now you'll never know, well unless you want to be a 19 year old divorce
You got married too early.
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