basically whats happening here is you have made it into an issue and are not letting go because you ask yourself when having sex '; will i have an orgasm'; its a mental block that pretty hard to get out of, trust me have been there and its sooo frustrating! but i eventually got over it by experimenting on my own and learning to just let go and stop thinking negative thoughts, if you dont have an orgasm dont beat yourself up over it, just enjoy sex without the thoughts and when you do you will have an orgasm :)Orgasm promblems , NEED ADVICE !?
Probably the best thing to do is to take the boyfriend out of the equation for now. Understanding what makes you ';tick'; is going to take some solo work-outs. Some women primarily have orgasms internally (g-spot) and some have them externally (clitoris). If you are an ';internal'; girl, and the shape or size of your boyfriend (this can also be stimulated by different sexual positions) is not hitting the spot, then it's not going to be easy. I would suggest going to a sex shop and trying to find a dildo (no vibration) that is a very similar size and shape of your boyfriend. Play around with it at home and see if you can't make it happen. Try it repeatedly until you notice a pattern and can teach your boyfriend to emulate the movements that turned you on the most. A few other suggestions: Jelly cock rings- They help hold a firm erection and they stimulate you also! Get on top- you have more control and he can play with your nipples. Lube- make sure you are nice and slippery. Shave- a clean shave down there can make the experience so much more intense and less ';rashy';
Lots of women can't have one w/ penetration alone. It's very common. Try some new possitions (see Kama Sutra) and if all else fails, enjoy some ';play'; that will get you to have one before and/or after sex. Also, durring the act of sex, be sure he knows what you like and that he is doing those things (even if it is just a certain way you like to be held or things you like said) so that you are not completely bored.
In some cases, you just have to turn your brain on. Sex is very mental. So if he is not doing it for you, close your eyes and imagine your wildest fantasies. Again, lots of women do this. Just don't scream out the wrong name.
Well, while your having sex, sometimes the penis alone does not let you have an orgasm because it does not rub your clitorus. While you are having sex, have your boyfriend use his finger to rub your clit while having sex. Then both you and your boyfriend will be pleased! :)
First go to your GYN doctor.
a friend of mine she went a long time before she had her first she got sexed by different guys all the time finally she orgasm with one guy and married him
so don't worry keep trying
let him pleasure with his mouth and hope for the best.
I hope this helps.
If nothing is wrong physically, you may just be trying too hard. Give your body a break from the action for awhile. Things may be very different when you resume. (maybe wait 3-4 days or more if you can). You might need a physical from your ob/gyn if all else fails. Relax!!
You need to see your doctor and have an examination; you might have a physical problem. If not, the problem could be emotional, and you could be referred to a psychologist.
Don't just struggle on hoping it will go away.
Just keep trying, it's not your fault that you are having trouble reaching the ';big O';. I mean it is fun to have relations is it not? I've heard that there are many females that have problem with that...GOOD LUCK!!
Well dont try so hard and dont think as much, just focus on your man and how good it feels. your stressing your self out on the whole thing and it wont happen if your force it so just dont worry so much.
Try a different position. Sometimes changing it up can make it more interesting. Also just try and be yourself, quit trying. If you just let them come they will.
explore your own body and no what you like, then you can explain to your partner
maybe some oral job before intercourse ;)
oh sporry, i thought you where my wife.
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